Comment by Lois on January 19, 2010 at 10:03am

Give your idea a try, chani.

Evolve your reaction afterwards.
To your heart be true.
Trust your-self.

pax

Comment by Cynthia Lee Watkins on January 19, 2010 at 12:29pm

Do whatever makes YOU comfortable! All wigs aren't bad....if you decide to go that way, you may have to try on many brands, styles, and price ranges......

Comment by Alexandra on January 19, 2010 at 12:37pm

I think you should give both ideas a shot and see which one you like better. That way, if you don't like going natural, you'll have a wig to fall back on - or, if you like going wigless, you'll know it for a fact.
Best luck!
Alexandra

Comment by Lyndsey Pitchford on January 19, 2010 at 1:15pm

Yeh its worth trying both options but the problem is wigs can be expensive and if you get another one and dont like it then its a waste of money for you. I dont think you'd get over the fear of having it knocked off or pulled off without investing in a vacum wig that can be several thousand pounds I think. You could go natural and once you do the worry of people finding out will disappear. You look very pretty I'm sure you'd be stunning without a wig on. Alternatively you could invest in a few cheap wigs different styles and head scarves and stuff and just have some fun. Let people know you have alopecia and then there is no stress to keep it a secret everyday.
But it must be entirely your decision. Do what feels right for you and good luck with everything!

Comment by Aimee on January 19, 2010 at 1:29pm

Trust your instincts. I think it's good to have a wig for times when you don't want to be "the center of attention." If you go out bald or in a scarf, people often automatically assume you have cancer, and sometimes you may just not want to feel like dealing with the questions. So, for those times, a wig might be helpful. It's all a matter of personal preference.

You probably just haven't found the right wig, though. It does take a lot of trial and error. Perhaps you're a petite, not an average, and that's why you worry about your wig falling off? I'm fortunate to work from home, so what I do is wear a soft hat around the house and a wig in public.

Comment by Rose Marie' on January 19, 2010 at 2:07pm

Hi

That's a very big decision. My advise would be to try going AU naturel and see how you feel. If it becomes too intrusive and you want to try a different alternative, such as a different type of hairpiece or a lovely hat you will understand why you want to do that.

Going AU naturel is just a choice on how to present yourself it doesn't change the fact that you have alopecia and you will have to deal with the consequences of that no matter which way you decide to go. No hair, scarves, wigs are all just choices. Be prepared for the questions, be prepared for (hopefully not but maybe) a little bad behaviour from the curious.

Good luck with your decision I'm sure you will find your way to feeling comfortable with alopecia.

Rosy

Comment by Hayley Burton on January 21, 2010 at 2:41pm

If you decide to go natural and want to talk to someone who's been doing it for 5 years, send me a message :-) I love it, and although you do get the odd bad comment it's worth it for the freedom and ease of having no hair to worry about!! Good luck with your decision xxx

Comment by Linda T on January 21, 2010 at 4:51pm

Hello,
I have also been struggling with getting used to wearing a wig. People tell me that they can't tell I am wearing a wig, and actually complement my new hair style. I am very self conscious of it riding up and moving and my having to adjust it through out the day. I went to a place that does custom wigs. She said my wig was fine and suggested that use a little velcro to secure it to my head. She sewed two small patches, one on the top, the other on the neck hair line with matching opposite pieces that stick to my scalp. The stuff is called Derma-fuse. It is working for me. Good luck with what ever you decide. I think we have the option to do both.

Comment by chani trav on January 21, 2010 at 11:10pm

thanks for all your comments and support. You all have given me somethings to think about.

Comment by Vicsta on January 23, 2010 at 1:38pm

Ooh I can relate.

I have been in so many different phases - shaved with wig, shaved with headscarves, shaved with nothing, hair with wig, hair with headscarf, hair with balding showing...

I think that a wig with hair underneath it tends to feel horrible. Shaved head with wig often helps the wig to fit better (because surprisingly even a small amount of hair can make a big difference to the size of your head!) and actually provides a little stability (friction) to stop it from feeling like it is going to fall off.

One thing: have you checked your head circumference against the wig? Sometimes manufacturers make them a little smaller than average or you may have a larger head than average (average is around 22 to 22.5 inches). Make sure you have adjusted the straps inside and you could always try using a little daily wear wig tape.

When deciding what to do in the past, I have considered my circumstances. E.g. whether I am in work and need to look smart, how much I can afford to spend on 'hair' and how often I would need to replace it etc. For me, there have been times when I needed to look smart for work but didn't want to wear a wig, so I opted for headscarves and had/have loads of them that matched or complemented my various outfits. That might be something worth thinking about also.

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