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Rude people
I don't understand why people have to be so rude,
My poor ego :(
I was feeling down, (it's really hard to feel like you look good when you're eight months pregnant) but something got me even more down.
I recently bought a wig online, Seeing as how there are no wig stores in flagstaff that was my option.
I've been wearing it for about a month now and as most of you know, Synthetic wigs tend to wear out fast, especially if they aren't the best quality.
A little girl (Well not so little.. probably eighteen or ninteen) came up to me and stated "how far along are you?"
A normal question I thought she was being sweet, then she finished it off with "Oh and, you need to buy a new wig, I can totally tell its a wig, it's all gross and lifting in the back" She had two of her friends with her that started laughing.
Hysterically so I could tell they were shocked by what their friend had said, but me I wanted to cry.
I knew it was getting ratty, but I didn't think anyone had noticed, it hurt my feelings so badly (I guess being overly emotional from pregnancy didn't help either) I couldn't even think of a come back, I just told her thank you and let her skip off with her friends without the slightest bit of guilt from insulting me.
The sad part is, I don't know if she even knew she was insulting me, she could have thought she was doing me a favor by letting me know. and I know that I should ignore girls like that, or people who say rude things, but it made me think; who else noticed it was a wig and just didn't say anything?
My confidence was shattered, it's just so ridiculous what low tolerance people have now days. I don't think I would have said something like that even if her wig was falling half off her head!
My husband was upset when I met up with him in the mall as well (I had been sitting down waiting for him to be done with a meeting with his recruiter) We just don't understand how someone could be so mean.
Have any of you had situations similar?
My poor ego :(
I was feeling down, (it's really hard to feel like you look good when you're eight months pregnant) but something got me even more down.
I recently bought a wig online, Seeing as how there are no wig stores in flagstaff that was my option.
I've been wearing it for about a month now and as most of you know, Synthetic wigs tend to wear out fast, especially if they aren't the best quality.
A little girl (Well not so little.. probably eighteen or ninteen) came up to me and stated "how far along are you?"
A normal question I thought she was being sweet, then she finished it off with "Oh and, you need to buy a new wig, I can totally tell its a wig, it's all gross and lifting in the back" She had two of her friends with her that started laughing.
Hysterically so I could tell they were shocked by what their friend had said, but me I wanted to cry.
I knew it was getting ratty, but I didn't think anyone had noticed, it hurt my feelings so badly (I guess being overly emotional from pregnancy didn't help either) I couldn't even think of a come back, I just told her thank you and let her skip off with her friends without the slightest bit of guilt from insulting me.
The sad part is, I don't know if she even knew she was insulting me, she could have thought she was doing me a favor by letting me know. and I know that I should ignore girls like that, or people who say rude things, but it made me think; who else noticed it was a wig and just didn't say anything?
My confidence was shattered, it's just so ridiculous what low tolerance people have now days. I don't think I would have said something like that even if her wig was falling half off her head!
My husband was upset when I met up with him in the mall as well (I had been sitting down waiting for him to be done with a meeting with his recruiter) We just don't understand how someone could be so mean.
Have any of you had situations similar?
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Comment by Tallgirl on August 18, 2010 at 9:58pm
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I wrote something about insensitive people once...(on my page). Seems we all have some sort of story about these kind of people who still see wigs as jokes or costumes, not as our body parts. How can someone who hasn't been taught manners be anything else but a Teen Turd? Do some Self Therapy pronto to balance it out: favorite music, food, dessert, dance, flowers, man...
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Comment by Tiffany P on August 18, 2010 at 10:43pm
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No one has ever approached me to say something rude like that but i had times when poeple have said something rude to me when i was talking to them. yeah sometimes you are to shocked or mad to say anything and your mind goes blank. But people are rude all around nowadays with or without your hair people will try your nerves. Sorry this happened to you please done take it heart even though thats hard to do.
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Comment by Dominique Cleopatra on August 19, 2010 at 12:07am
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It's too bad someone compassionate and tactful couldn't have gently brought this issue to your attention, but look on the brightside: I would want to know the truth. Please don't stress about this, or anything, for the sake of you and your baby, and just get a new, affordable wig.
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Comment by Kayla on August 19, 2010 at 3:23am
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Thank you guys, I really love the inspiring talk :) It helps a lot, it really does.
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Comment by Norm on August 19, 2010 at 12:44pm
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Hiya Kayla - take heart from the knowledge that if anyone else DID notice, they never said anything cos to them... it simply wasn't a big deal. :)
Best thing to do to avoid this kinda situation - where you're stuck for a comeback - is to have a few prepared in advance (you don't think comedians come up with all those funnies on the fly, do ya???) So you coulda said.... "yeah, I know, but the rest of me's so perfect I needed to have just one thing that wasn't, so I could try and get down to your level... looks like I didn't manage it, though", or "well, yeah, it's easy enough to get a new wig, but dunno what you're gonna do about that nose/mouth/whatever" (delete/substitute as appropriate).
Might be a good idea to invest in a pair of running shoes and a fast car as well, though - just in case it looks like it might get a bit physical :)
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Sheesh, Stace, I think after that I'd have expected them to vanish in a puff of smoke.... consigned back to the depths of hell from whence they came! :)
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LOL norm and i like your response stacey have to remember that one.
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Haha, there was probably a million things I could have pointed out bluntly to her about her looks, such as her over use in makeup (I just hate that caked on makeup that young girls do these days) I know I'm young as well, but I like to think of myself as better then that lol
It's always such a shame to think of things to say after they already skip off haha
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And by caked on, I mean clown face lol
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Comment by Petra on August 19, 2010 at 2:49pm
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I'm the same way I always think of something to say after they have skipped off. They were probably just feeling so insecure by your beauty that the only way the could make themselves feel better is by trying to point out a flaw and the only thing could come up with was your wig. So the rest of you must be perfect :-)
I don't know what kind of wig you wear, I wear synthectic mono top and have had one for maybe 2 years - the short ones last a lot longer. I wear the same one to work everyday and it's not a very clean environment which I feel is bad for wigs...so I think is is holding up exceptionally well.
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