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I"m a fairly stubborn, also resilient person. I've seen people suffer, seen people go through pain and seen people bury loved ones. Heck, i've gone to friends' funerals, at 22 years of age. I have seen people from school end up paraplegics, seen kids i have looked after get limbs amputated because of cancer tumors. I've always been a fairly philosophical, realistic person, however these experiences have always made me grown up more, and have always made me see truth in my realistic views of the world.

Truth is, alopecia sucks. Truth is, alopecia is also no big deal unless we let it become one. I know i'm lucky it's just my hair. It could have been worse, and i'll keep telling myself this, to remind me of how lukcy i am it only affects my hair. One person gets diagnosed with soem form or cancer every hour. 1 in 3 people in Australia will suffer from cancer. I'm lucky to be an alopecian, and that nothing else is wrong with me.

However, my thoughts often wander around to others and how they deal with things. I'm ok with my alopecia. I have bad days and sad days, but generally, i'm cool with it, and i'm pretty much over it. But i worry about others, and how they react to it. Guys, well, men are just another topic all together ;) But i do wonder how they react to it.

I dont know. I'm just a happy go lucky person, and i am who i am. I'm not a better or worse person because of my hair style, or because of whether or not i can grown my own hair out of my own body, or whether I need help withat. I'm not better or worse because i sometimes wear glasses, sometimes wear contacts. I'm just me. So many things make up me, and so many things are tehre to challenge us. But i believe that we're given challenges because we can handle them, maybe better tahn others could.

I just wish everyone else around me could see it like I do.

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Comment by SportyAusGirl on March 1, 2009 at 5:46am
Oh hi Narns, lovely to see you on here!! Mind if i send through a friend request?

it is a very hard condition. However i think once we, the alopecians, have dealt with it, it's not that big an issue. I keep trying to think, it's only a problem if i let it become one. I'm also sick of my friends telling me i should be sad and grieving - been there, done that, time to move on. they can't undersand my desire to be free of anxiety adn worry about it, and just to be me and to be able to be over it. It's almost as if they don't want me to be ok with it, or they aren't ok with it and want to see me sad or something. I dont know.

But anyway, thanks for the comment, adn i hope all is well over your way
xox
Comment by Venie Phillips on March 3, 2009 at 3:43am
I consider myself a lucky alopecian as I didn't develop AA until I was 50 and it only progressed to AT at 60 and to AU at 64. I'm also lucky in that my husband still makes me feel beautiful and desirable. I have a couple of vacuum wigs and this makes life so much more normal as it completely takes away any fear of losing my hair in public. Not that I keep it a secret from either friends or even casual acquaintances but I really wouldn't want to go chasing a wig down the street!
Perspective is everything and I realised how trivial a matter my hair loss is when, two years ago, my son died in a car crash. Now, I don't give it a thought.
Comment by SportyAusGirl on March 4, 2009 at 1:06am
Perspective is everything. I'm very sorry to hear for your loss, Venie. xx
Comment by James on March 14, 2009 at 12:24am
SportyAusGirl I enjoyed reading this blog post very much. You sound like a very caring truthful person. I think it's great that you say things the way it is - yes things could be a lot worse but alopecia does suck! When i had AA it didn't bother me but AU was something entirely new for me. I'm only now getting used to it and I truely think that the best thing we could do for ourselves is to accept that this is who we are and move on. Only then can the burden of societal norms be lifted off our shoulders to allow us to feel normal again. Cheers, James.
Comment by Joshua on March 14, 2009 at 12:43am
Hi SportyAusGirl,

I couldnt agree more with you especially on the part we are given the challenge because we can handle it better than others...

jt

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