I shared this with the Men Who Don't Mind group and thought it might do some good to share it with the rest of Alopecia World as well. Of course, I'd love to know how you feel about these matters.
It's one thing for me or anyone else to accept the fact that alopecians -- or anyone else, for that matter -- may feel the way they do about something, but it's quite another thing altogether for someone to express their feelings in ways that show little or no regard for the feelings of others.
So, although Alopecia World is a place where 'acceptance' is all there is, by no means should this be (mis)interpreted to mean that it's okay for alopecians or anyone else on this site to say whatever is own their minds in whatever way they wish to say it. All members of Alopecia World, both alopecians and non-alopecians, should be considerate of others at all times, careful with their words at all times, and especially cautious when applying negative labels to others.
For example, while I 'accept' the fact that my fiancée has alopecia and sometimes struggles with certain issues because of the condition, both she and I do not 'accept' the notion that she should be free to express her thoughts or her frustrations or even her sadness in any manner she so desires, especially if she's being insensitive to me or others.
Of course, the same applies to me. In fact, we believe that the so-called Golden Rule is always in order, regardless of how someone may feel or the circumstances: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"; not before they do unto and not as they do unto you, but as you would have them do unto you.
Given how something like alopecia can adversely impact a person's life, and how it might leave them an emotional wreck, they might easily slip into believing that they have the right to speak to others however they wish about whatever they wish, especially when it comes to their medical condition. Moreover, struggling to cope with a condition as challenging and life-altering as alopecia may also make it hard for some to also attune themselves in to the feelings and needs of others.
Nonetheless, if unity, peace, harmony, respect, and order are to be maintained in Alopecia World, alopecians and every one else on this site must try our best to be as considerate and compassionate in how we express our feelings as we hope others will be in responding to our feelings.
This is why lately I've had quite a bit to say about bald fetishism and the presence of non-alopecians in Alopecia World. Comments and discussions about these matters have begun to degenerate to the point that non-alopecians, including me, are being offended unnecessarily. Again, while all members of Alopecia World are free to state their opinions, it would behoove all of us to also bear in mind that any freedom without restraints is bondage to excess. Therefore, let all of us be temperate and thoughtful in what we have to say as well as how we say it.