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Comment by Laura Downing on October 7, 2011 at 2:07am

I hope to inspire other by challenging the ideals of beauty. I've recently become very involved in art modeling for photographers and figure drawing classes.

Comment by Tom Patterson on December 1, 2009 at 5:38pm

Hey all, I'm interested to see if there's any other actors out there. Proud Equity member here since 2006.

Comment by Sue Helaine on November 14, 2009 at 10:33pm

Hello all! I'm delighted to become a part of this creative artistic and beautiful group! I look forward to getting to know you! Sue

Comment by Dorothy on April 23, 2009 at 11:56am

Lindsay, Doing just fine here, of course my car is still not fixed and it seems I am unable to put aside the money to have it fixed just now and keep making the payments, so hopefully I will have saved the money before soccer season for my son. Can't miss those games ya know. Carlsbad sounds like a great place to be, I love tulips and spring is tulips a plenty. I have a rather large bed of tulips in front of the house, they are so beautiful just now.

Your job sounds interesting, I loved when I was able to work and things would get really busy, makes for short days, at the end of which I felt accomplished, liked what I was able to do. As you know I have never been to CA, but my kids are after me to try to save the money to go to DisneyLand next spring, both Disneyland and I will be celebrating our 55th b'day, well mine is in May and DL in July, but still we both turn 55 next year and the kids think it interesting we both were born in 1955 and will be turning 55. So, provided I can save to get my car fixed and this very expensive trip, I might actually get to see a spec of your great state. How close is Carlsbad to Anaheim. Are they not both in southern CA, well I guess I should just get out a map here. Well time will tell if I can get the funds together, I do not do credit cards, pay cash as we go, save a lot in interest, just makes travel a very advance planning situation. I think if we had cc's we would not be able to do what we do because we would be paying all that interest.

Well, more than you needed to know I am sure. By the way, you do not have to appogize when MIA, we are all busy people and I just accept the time others do have to share with me.

Enjoy our chats tho!

Comment by Lindsay on April 23, 2009 at 11:39am

hi Dorothy!
so sorry I have been MIA, but my job has become very different recently and I am adjusting to the changes :) of course it is a positive change though.... I work for VersaSpa, I am the office manager of the west coast office, and MagicTan, the company that makes the VersaSpa, just had a merge with Mystic Tan, and we are reorganizing everything..... its crazy, but I love it!
so with all that being said, how are you my friend? I hope you are doing very well and really enjoying the springtime! I know I am... Springtime is really special in Southern California..... Carlsbad is the flower capital of the US, or something like that, but it really is amazing....
Being around this much natural beauty everyday really helps keep stay positive and feel the beauty inside me too :)

Comment by Dorothy on April 23, 2009 at 11:00am

Interesting, I had not heard that one before, thanks for sharing.

Comment by Nicole Mosley on April 23, 2009 at 2:17am

"There is no excellent beauty that hath not some strangeness in the proportion." ~ Francis Bacon

Comment by Dorothy on March 20, 2009 at 2:35pm

I have done the turban thing but only around the house and never to answer the door, mostly for warmth during the winter months, but have not done that in years. I do not even let my own mother see me without my wig, I was married afterall when it all started, so she has never seen me this way. We are planning a trip to Disney this September and I have purchased a special comfort lined wig to wear to bed since we will be sharing hotel rooms. So no I am not even comfortable with a wig substitute. I think my two younger kids have learned to be more accepting of differences, so they are more open minded to be sympathetic and understanding of people who don't fit the "normal mold", my so much that he has had a lot of girl friends that I "lovingly" call damaged. They have been molested or have a parent who does drugs, or are in foster care for various horendous reasons, they find they can talk to him and he does not judge them. They find him a comfort and he is only 16, such a big heart he has. Of course these girl friends are not serious relationships at his age, but with his record he will make a wonderful husband for some lucky girl in the future. My daughter is really good with handicapped children and has a big heart, she can be a bit self absorbed, but she does not disregard me like the other does. So, yes I think they will do well in society and contribute to the understanding of it all.

As far as my hubby, well he got to know me before all this happened, so for him to just walk away, that was not an option for him. When I think of some of the boyfriends I had in school, I know not a single one of them would have stayed, it takes a special man to look past the wig. I know they are out there, I know several women who are married and got married after the alopecia began. I also know I am fortunate, but I did not get the only man who can look past the baldness of it all. So there is a man for you, just around the corner I am sure. When you least expect it perhaps, but somewhere.

I understand your mother and her feelings, I was terrible mad at God when the alopecia started, furious and thinking I was being punished, what I could not say, but convinced I was being punished. So for many years I would not step inside a church, even listen to a tv preacher. At some point I had to forgive myself and come back to my beliefs. Now I pray everyday and yes the occasional thought creeps in of why me? and even why can I not have happiness, but deep down I know I have to find my own happiness and can not rely on God for that, meaning I have to find happiness in what I have. I guess that is why I have let go of the oldest daughter, I had the happiness of having given birth, raised her the best I could, during a very emotional time. Then I had to let her go and make her own way. Now and for many years I have these other two kids, that I prayed for and God gave me another chance at motherhood, so there is my happiness, as well as other areas of my life. (It was hard for me to get preg with all three kids, but especially #2, took 15 yrs)

Well, it is now Friday afternoon, and soon the activity will start, daughter will be coming home from work, then shortly after so will hubby, son is spending 4 days at my mothers house, she is 77 yrs old and he stays with her several times a year to help with household chores that are difficult for her. So I hope you have a very pleasant weekend, it is sometimes harder for me to get to the computer during weekend.

I have enjoyed our chat, I hope you can explain to your mother about what I said about being mad at God and that she should let go of her anger, I finally did and I feel so much better. It is great that you have such a healthy attitude about the alopecia, my biggest fear was that I would pass this along to my girls, well the oldest at nearly 36 has no signs of hair lose, and so far the 20 yr old does not, but between you and me your mother may be harboring some thoughts that she did this to you, that she is somehow to blame. I know my dad thought it was his fault because my son is allergic to penicillin, my father is allergic and when he found out about my son he cried, finally understanding, I had to tell him my hubby is also allergic. We parents do think the strangest things sometimes.

Enough rambling on, hopfully I have said something you can take from this and ease some of your mothers pain.

Take care and I will add you to my prayers tonight, that you find a good and understanding man.


Take Care!

Comment by Lindsay on March 20, 2009 at 2:08pm

that must have been extremely hard for, but we must do what have to to keep spirits up, and take care of what is important, and i am so glad u have 2 accepting younger children.... they sound like wonderful people :)
u know, my brother had one bout of losing all his hair, but his came back relatively quickly..... my mother is so angry that i lost all my hair, she is a religious woman but says she is mad at God for doing this to me, because i have been through so many trials other than this.... i told her, mom, out of everything i have been through just prepared me mentally for this.... this, i can handle! boy i hope i keep this outlook...... because sometimes i am very lonely..... i go on dates, i am honest about my disease, and i have not had any real connection with a man though.... i wish i could have a decent relationship at least.... but i thank my lucky stars everyday for the friends that i do have! they keep me busy, and distracted..... its just that one day i want to start my own family, and im only getting older! scary.... i dont want to be alone forever....
have u ever worn scarves? or cute hats? they are my saving grace, i find that wigs are very bothersome, except for when i want to look "magical"
:)

Comment by Dorothy on March 20, 2009 at 11:13am

She now lives in Ark, and we have no contact with her and horrible to say, I am glad, she just breaks me heart when she is around, with her being at a distance and no longer in our lives, she can not hurt us as badly. She has hurt her siblings because of her not having contact, my poor son spent the first 12 yrs of his life having not met her because she lived in Omaha then and would have no contact, then moved to our town for 2 yrs, then off again and with no contact, she is like a stranger to him and our daughter askes what I want her to do should she ever get married, I told her she can invite her, but I would rather not see her as part of the wedding party. She understands, the oldest one well, I gave up a long time ago trying to understand her, and I can tell you the hurt was bad, but I have put that hurt away for now as I have two other kids to concern myself with just now and can not spend my life in a state of hurt. As far as the alopecia, I think for the most part I have put that hurt away too. Some days I allow myself to think about it, but most days I just go about my day like any other person would, just trying to get thru the day and adding as much good to my life as I can, one day at a time.

I accept your hug, life is short and we can never get enough hugs, thanks!

Have never been to CA, very far distance for me, I only venture southward to go to Disney, love that place, that is one place I can go and be a kid again, even forget about my alopecia for a time. Of course I do not do the rides that could cause my wig to fly off, but most of those are ones I would not do anyway as I am chicken for the wilder rides.

Oh well, life goes on!

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