Why so much emphasis on hair and not other style changes?

Every winter I change my hair extensions out and wear a wig. With my puny hair, I feel it is best to give it a rest from extensions, and also at the ranch my own hair with extensions does not hold well in the wind and rain.
I love my wigs, but every year it is the same process of getting used to the comments others make about my new hair. Some people are very kind, others not so much. I have learned from past experience that this goes with the territory.
I can't help but wonder why we need to place so much emphasis on hair and not other style changes? If I get new boots, no one notices. If I get a hair cut, almost no one notices, but get new hair???EVERYONE notices! In fact, every year as I go through the process of adjusting to my hair, I also notice other women (and occasionally men) with hair additions.
Somewhere deep inside we have developed an insecurity about hair that just does not apply to other style changes.Funny thing, I worry more about adding hair than I do about losing it now. I have lost my hair so many times that I no longer even notice that it is thinner. To me, that is a gift. Worrying about both losing and gaining hair at the same time would be overwhelming for sure.
Now, if I could just find a way not to worry about wearing hair life would be perfect.

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Comment by Lori on November 28, 2012 at 7:07am

I agree with you!!! I have two sets of hair extensions one almost a full wig and the other a wrap around extension. When I first wore it people were commented on my hair all the time. I hated it. It made me feel more uncomfortable. I thought people were looking at me with my spots and then people were now looking at me with my extensions. I think the people in this world are so insecure about themselves that they think your hair is beautiful and wonder if they can get that hair style. I have to make you laugh, I have curly hair with my extensions I wear my hair straight it's easier to have a different look then match the curl. The moms I know that have curly hair are wearing there straight now!! That's why I say everyone is insecure not just us with AA.

Comment by chris for hair on November 28, 2012 at 12:05pm

Yes, I think you are right, this is not limited to those with AA, almost everyone is insecure about their hair. Funny how often a client worries about a new hair style even if it is far better than the old style.

Comment by Vesselsong on December 3, 2012 at 10:15pm

I believe that more emphasis is placed on hair than other styles because Indie Arie's song entitled, "I am Not My Hair" doesn't ring true for the world at large.

Comment by chris for hair on December 3, 2012 at 10:53pm
You may very well be right. But things are changing and as wigs become more of a fashion accessory, which is what I see in young women, they will become acceptable for women in general.
Wigs are fun, and should be viewed like any other accessory, not something that indicates you are ill or bald. If it weren't for my wigs, no one would ever notice me. But when I wear hair, the check-out clerks, people driving while I walk, the guys at the ranch where I board my horse are all nicer to me...I feel different and the world treats me differently. But I also thank God that there is some way I can cover my "bad" hair and feel attractive. It is a lot easier than many other things I must do at my age to look good...
Comment by Cindie on December 4, 2012 at 3:09pm

I try to keep with the same basic color and style (yeah, I know, boring), to keep all the negativity and comments down. Wussygirl, I am.

Comment by chris for hair on December 5, 2012 at 12:50pm
NO, you are not Wussy! I did the same last winter, tried to look as much as possible as I always did, and there were negative comments then. This year I just don't care if people like my look or not, if I feel good I act nicer, then others are nicer to me. We all have to find our own personal "comfort zone."
Comment by Jasmine Harrell on December 6, 2012 at 10:56pm

I can so identify with this experience. I am really glad that you posted it. Before I started losing my hair it was thick and long. NOw it gorws back and it will grow long however there are always those spots. I can't wear my hair down. When I wear a wig I catch other women staring or they may even make a snide comment. It takes some thick skin to deal with this condition.

Comment by chris for hair on December 6, 2012 at 11:14pm
Yes it does! In more ways than one...You know, if you only have spots that are bare, you could bond into those spots and not have to wear a full wig don't you?
I actually love my wigs because I never had "good hair," but I also understand those that did have the good hair are even more affected by the comments etc.
Comment by Holly on December 8, 2012 at 9:30pm

I think the main reason people notice it so much is because it's next to your face, and that's the thing we look at the most. If you got new boots nobody would be staring at them while talking to you! It's a shame, but that's just the way it is.
The really hard part I think as a community is that the more we cover it up the less acceptable it is...but that doesn't make it any easier for each person to deal with the comments and stares on a daily basis when they go without a wig/scarf/extensions etc. It's almost like being gay used to be...!


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