This is a question I reflect upon every once in awhile. I guess I'm a believer in the saying "Things happen for a reason" and so I often think about what is the reasoning behind my alopecia.
For myself, two lessons resonate for me.
Lesson 1) I learned that I am far stronger than I ever thought I was or could be. When you are first thrown in the spotlight of alopecia, all of those small self-conscious issues surface quickly. For myself, they didn't go away...so I had to "deal" with them, recognize my negative and irrational self-talk and seriously put the issues to rest...not easy, especially as a woman bombarded with images of perfection on T.V. and magazines...Honestly, us women are our own worse critics. As an aside...There was a comic once that illustrated the latter beautifully. A naked woman was standing in front of a man thinking,"I hope he doesn't notice the extra five pounds I've gained" The man's reply, "WOW...there is a naked woman in my room!!!" Still makes me smile.
2) Lesson 2 - Life is about balance. When alopecia hit me I was in a full time teaching job, coaching volleyball and also being a mom to an 18 month old and 3 year old...CRAZY. I learned that I wasn't taking time for myself (I love to run and was not doing it...NO TIME!) barely making time for the hubby and really felt like a fish swimming upstream...exhausted. Whether it was the stress from this that triggered my alopecia or not...I've put myself as a priority. Happy mom, Happy business woman, Happy wife really does translate into a Happy Life for all...most days (Of course there are still some crazy moments, and monthly cycling of hormones... but that is life)
My question to my inspiring alopecian friends is what has alopecia taught you?