Comment by AlopeciaDestroyedMyLife on January 20, 2015 at 3:43pm

Hey Rita,

I have a saying:

"You can fake happiness but it will never make you truly happy" ADML/Owen

It's only natural to care about losing you're hair. I am 100% with realistic positivity but

fake positivity really does nothing to help the situation as deep down you feel bitter and upset and sooner or later it will come to light. 

All around me are people living their lives , having families, being happy,  getting married etc .. 

I feel left  out and frankly really jealous especially when they all take hair for granted , like it's no big deal.

Don't feel bad about a little rant , there's no better therapy. I'm on here a lot if you ever wanted to talk about stuff. 

All the best 

Owen

Comment by Rita on January 20, 2015 at 11:35pm

Thanks to the both of you! Aimee, a lot of people have that perspective, maybe I'll see it in the future. And ADML, you're a great person to talk with and thanks for the quote.

Comment by Lo on January 27, 2015 at 2:42pm

What type of alopecia were you diagnosed with, Rita?  You are beautiful, by the way! 

Comment by Rita on January 27, 2015 at 3:33pm

Thank you! I was diagnosed with AT.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on February 9, 2015 at 5:15pm

Hi Rita,

You are right “It really takes a special kind of guy to deal with our issues inside and out.”  Which is what we should be looking for whether we have alopecia or not.  You may want to take a look at the Men who don't mind Group and remember what kind of man you are looking for.  We are not settling we are actually looking for something more.

As for helping others, I think you are in a better position to help others because you are going through something.  You have some life experience in pain and loss and not just book knowledge.

Rita, don't let your alopecia stop you from doing anything.  Find YOUR way to get it.

One day you will look back and marvel at your strength and find that you can use this experience to help you through many other events in your lifetime.

Comment by Rita on February 9, 2015 at 8:43pm

Thanks Cheryl, it means a lot coming from someone who's been through some of the same situations. I'll be sure to look at the group, thanks! Best of wishes.

Comment by JenNy on February 16, 2015 at 3:36am

Rita, I am 32 now and recently engaged. Honestly, I know it's hard not to compare but don't compare your place in life with others being engaged or married or having someone.  I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone, you just have not found them yet.  Don't live in fear because that's not living.  Go out and do your thing girl.  I lived in hiding for 2 years afraid that people knew I had AA, that they could tell I was trying to hide it.  maybe they did maybe they didn't but it really is all in your head.  I was lucky and my hair grew back, I just want to spread the word that there is hope when things look like they can't get any worse.  I had suicidal thoughts daily and only anti-depressants helped for the temporary time being.  Things will get better and you're so young to be worried about men.  Find yourself first and be happy with who you are.. hair or not.. .(which I know is hard).

Best wishes love!

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