today, this morning (friday morning, here in Germany..), my husband
surprised me with asking me, maybe to cheer me up a little?, in a
very sweet way, if there was a "chance for us" to have a baby..
We had discussed this "question" several times, and so-far, he
always had said, he might feel it´s "too-early" for us to think about
it ... in a more-serious way than just like "romantic dreams"..
and today, this morning, he said, "you are so beautiful, so sexy..",
and a bit later, he asked, a bit shy, "could we have a baby together.."?
I mean, it´s nearly-exactly a week ago, that I lost my head-hair, and
nearly-every morning, I feel like combing some of my hair.. but there´s
none of it any-longer.. these are problems, I have to cope and live with..
and now, he asked me such a crazy-and-romantic-and-wonderful question..
I mean, I felt surprised, happy, touched.. but: I did not want to answer, at once..
I said, I`d have to think about his idea... and it seemed, he might understand what
I mean.. of-course I do love him, and of-course, under normal circumstances, I
wouldn´t have hesitated one-more-minute.. but now, with my "illness", my bald
head.. I don´t feel "secure" at the moment.. and with his question, though I did and
do find it so romantic!, I am not sure, was it a helpful idea of him...


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Comment by Tracy Spencer on November 7, 2008 at 12:30pm
Hi Hannah
That is such a wonderful and romantic question, I know just how you feel about been insecure but your husband obviously loves you so much to want to start a family with you, if you had your hair still you would of said yes so go for it don’t let alopecia run your life your still the same person inside and your very beautiful.
Comment by Courtney on November 7, 2008 at 4:30pm
aaaaawwwww!!!!!!!!!!!! what a flirt!!! lol jk
but really just a week ago? i think u should wait a bit to do something so rash. maybe get used to the change and then think about it. but for now: my advice is give it some time.
Comment by gerald on November 7, 2008 at 11:10pm
My wife is completely bald with au, my wife has been bald most of her life, and she has been pregnant times and we have three children. My wife loved being bald and pregnant, and she is a beautiful woman and a wonderful mom and wife. All of our children have full heads of hair.
Bald women are some of the most beautiful women, because you can really see their feminine features when they are bald. I love the bald look on beautiful women, it is sexy and they look so good, especially when they are dressed feminine, in a sexy dress, long earrings, etc..
Comment by Galvin on November 8, 2008 at 11:37am
Definitely!! I can't prove this but I have heard that the younger the mother the more healthy the
offspring. My mother was 37 years old when I was born and I have all kinds of allergies and
of course alopecia hit me at 9 years old. My brother who was born when my mother was 35 yrs old
has thyroid problems. Thankfully my daughter had her baby at 29. She is a cute baby!
Comment by John Paul on November 8, 2008 at 12:03pm
Hannah - He's simply telling you he loves you and wants to share perhaps the most important and special thing in the world that two people can do - have/raise a child together. Your feelings are completely understandable, but my suggestion would be to not so much answer his question as to tell him how much you love him back and how much he means to you. That's what you need from him right now. I don't know you guys, but the fact that he's willing/wanting to "give you" even more is simply his way of telling you it's (more than) ok and that he's with you no matter what comes along. Revel in that part of it (and him), and use it grow stronger and more confident to deal with this silly, annoying, frightening and purely cosmetic hair-loss BS. It's all good...including, when you're ready, the having the kid part - my 2 girls are magic and, of all the things in my life, they really put Alopecia in to perspective....good luck....
Comment by Mike on November 8, 2008 at 5:22pm
Yes!!! I have four wonderful kids at the moment, and while they can be hard work at times, I am so glad we have them. I can remember the day I became a Dad so very clearly. I was so proud of my wife and our two little bundles of joy. We now have four kids, and looking back, if I could go back in time and do it again, I would not hesitate.
Go for it!
Comment by Vicsta on November 9, 2008 at 5:07pm
Wow that's lovely that he asked you. Men have a way of doing things at strange times don't you find? On that note, maybe it is a way for him to reassure you that he finds you beautiful now that you have shaved your head and for him to feel close to you? I would discuss how you feel with him. Explain to him that you are going through a tough time adjusting to your hairloss and having shaved your head. From the sounds of it, it seems as if he would understand and perhaps would welcome the opporunity to discuss how you are feeling in more depth.
Comment by Vahishta on November 9, 2008 at 5:30pm
I think it is a wonderful idea and will get your focus off your troubles and on to something new and wonderful. You are lucky to have such a caring guy - i think it is his way of telling you not to worry and that he will be there for you all the way.


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