I have rarely considered myself a man of few words. But in this case I will. I have had alopecia totalis for over 40 yrs; no hair anywhere. And even though I have grown up, much of the world has not. I know that if I had to do it all over, I would probably made a much better go of my life, despite my condition. But no man is an island. We are all social beings and what people say to us, both to our face, and behind our back, when they think we cannot hear, permeates into us and our feelings/ourselves then reflect out into and onto others. To this day I have never had a girlfriend or a relationship in my life. I am 56. I lost my virginity at 49 and that was about it. I know that we all determine some part of our destiny. But there are many obstacles in the road of life, mostly made up of other people; shallow, insensitive, superficial, and childish. The list goes on. I do realize that there are millions of people in the world who have it way worse than we who have this condition do. But that does not necessarily make any of those in our world (or mine) any smarter or kinder. Maybe until I meet someone, someday, who accepts me as I am (I no longer feel I ever ever will) then I may have something good to say about this condition. So far I do not! Mark Hansen, Milwaukee, WI.