Hello Alopecia Friends,
My daughter Kimi is getting married in September and I, of course, am absolutely thrilled. Her fiance' is a wonderful man who I absolutely love. My dilemma is, as the "Mother of the Bride," I will be in the spotlight quite a bit at the wedding. As a lot of you know, I have a headful of tattoos and do draw attention to myself pretty much wherever I go. I, however, do not want to draw attention to myself at Kimi's wedding because she deserves the whole spotlight. My question is, what do I wear on my head??? I refuse to wear a wig because it is not "me" and everyone knows that about me. I wore a wig at my own wedding and I regret it to this day. Not that I didn't look "fabulous," but, because I did it for everyone else and not for me. After all, isn't that what a wedding is all about??? The bride and the groom!! My girls were very disappointed that I wore a wig also. So, does anyone have any suggestions on what I could wear that would cover my tattoos but still look elegant??? Thanx for listening.

Love and Hugs,
Dotty

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Comment by Carol on January 27, 2010 at 3:38pm
Hi Dotty
First of all I'd like to congratulate you and your daughter! There are some very beautiful scarves out there that you could wear but beyond that there are other option depending on the theme of the wedding (if there is one). A floral wreath with some thin flowing material underneath is pretty, there are loads of different types of hats, and I've seen some very nice beaded head caps too. A friend of mine had a medieval wedding and I wore a princess hat (the pointy ones with material flowing from the top) and I made a cap out of chain mail for the after party. If you use eye lash glue you can stick just about anything to your head if you so choose as well. Your daughter is a great person though and I'm sure she would be very accepting to whatever you do. Hope you all have a fantastic day, make sure to post pics after! :)
Comment by JeffreySF on January 27, 2010 at 4:12pm
Hi Dotty,

Congratulations!
Do you remember Jolene's hat? The black one with the red feather. You could try something like that.

Hugz!

Jeffrey
Comment by Holly Ralston Oyler on January 27, 2010 at 7:28pm
Dotty,
There are tons of alternatives and you could just buy a inexpensive wig for the wedding? I do wedding makeup and styling on a regular basis so my first suggestion is the. Ask the bride what SHE wants you to do. If your friends and family know you as you are, maybe you are stressing about something that is not even an issue. I have lots of ideas for you once you decide which direction you want to go.

www.hollyralstonoyler.com
Comment by Cynthia Lee Watkins on January 28, 2010 at 2:59pm
Wear a beautiful headwrap that coordinates with the outfit you will be wearing at the wedding!
Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on January 28, 2010 at 4:48pm
Hi Dotty, I agree with a few others, that you should speak to your daughter first and get her thoughts and then go on from there. There may be nothing to decide. Cindy, the airbrush makeup idea is really unique! I also like the idea of a beautiful scarf or head wrap. Keep us informed.
Comment by Galvin on January 28, 2010 at 6:43pm
I think women in hats look more "elegant". Good luck.
Comment by Dotty on January 29, 2010 at 2:50am
Thank you all so much for your great ideas and thoughtful comments. I appreciate each and every one. I will definitely keep you all "in the loop" and post lots of pics. I'm going wedding dress shopping on Saturday!!! I'm so excited I can hardly wait. Although, I know as soon as Kimi comes out of the dressing room with the first dress on, I'm going to be a blubbering mess!!!
Comment by Stephanie on January 30, 2010 at 10:30pm
Hi Dotty, Congrats on the wedding. I can say that I understand your situation with the head tattoo. If your kids are anything like mine they are going to want the "real" you at the wedding - head tattoo and all. I would definitely check with your daughter but I don't think you would outshine her nor do I think she would want you there any other way.

I know for work I've had to use makeup on my head to hide it before and would suggest doing that as an alternative.

I hope that helps!
Comment by Mary on January 31, 2010 at 5:15pm
What about a white or pastel-colored chiffon or other see-through fabric scarf that would provide some shape but would allow also your beautiful tattoos to show somewhat?

Definitely don't wear a wig - that isn't who you are. I wore a wig to my niece's wedding in August 2008, when I was still not used to being bald in public. I also was afraid that I'd distract attention from the bride and groom if I were bald. It was 90 degrees, and there was dancing for hours in an un-airconditioned room. I felt awful, had sweat pouring down my face, and when I finally took the wig off, it was soaking wet. Now when I look at the photos from the wedding and see myself in that wig, I wish so much that I'd just gone as I am.

Keep us posted, and congratulations!

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