My 5th anniversary of the woman I am now - thanks to being bald!

January 30 will be 5 years since the day I took control of my fast-departing hair, and shaved my head. Universalis followed shortly. I'd like to share what I've learned, and how being bald has affected me. Here's a photo taken on January 30, 2008, shortly after I shaved my head.

I began going out in public bald only a few months after shaving. I took "baby steps" to more and more places. I went from feeling like everyone was staring at me, to feeling like I don't give a damn if they are. After 8 or so months trying to wear a variety of wigs, I gave up on them completely because they're too hot for me. I wore and still wear scarves and knit caps and sunhats as needed for warmth or protection.

HERE'S THE MOST AMAZING THING, which I just recently realized: Today I am MORE self-confident, and LESS self-conscious than I was for the 50 or so years before I became bald! I had always been one of those women who worried excessively what other people thought about me, particularly about my appearance. Today, not so much.

My theory to explain the change is that when I made myself go out in public bald, I HAD to become less concerned about what people thought about me. Simple as that! These days I still try to look nice, and still have my moments of insecurity, but overall, I'm just MUCH more confident in myself as a person and as a woman.


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Comment by zeida on January 15, 2013 at 4:40pm
I wish I had your courage. I tried it and I didn't like feeling different. Good for you.
Comment by Mary on January 15, 2013 at 5:44pm

Zeida, it took me about a year, but it's worth it.

Comment by Mary on January 15, 2013 at 5:46pm

Check out my new page on Facebook: The Bald Mannequin Project!

Comment by Mary on January 15, 2013 at 6:03pm

Join my new group on Alopecia World and Facebook - The Bald Mannequin Project!

Comment by MiNAH on January 15, 2013 at 7:23pm
Raw Beauty!
Comment by Mary on January 15, 2013 at 7:39pm

Thanks...wish I still had those eyebrows and lashes, though. ( ;-)

Comment by pauline vargas on January 16, 2013 at 12:12am
Im proud of you
Comment by JeffreySF on January 16, 2013 at 11:01am

Happy Anniversary Mary!
I've always been very proud of you!


Comment by Melissa Griego on January 16, 2013 at 12:21pm

I admire your confidence immensly! I have been dealing with Alopecia Areata for 13 years, I am now 25 and it is the most severe that is has ever been. I try to keep positive thoughts, but sometimes all i can do is envy women with a full set of hair because I feel ugly. Now that I have accepted this and am educating myself more i have found more and more women/men dealing with this and it suddenly doesn't seem so bad to me...there are good and bad days! Anyhow, CONGRATS to you! I know how hard it is to embrace new things in life, but you have done it so beautifully! Thank you for the inspiring words!

Comment by Rose Marie' on January 16, 2013 at 2:46pm

Hi Mary

Happy Anniversary. You are an inspiration.



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