Just because I wear a wig does not mean I have self-esteem issues

Today I was with my cousin and I went with her to take her 5 year old son to get a haircut. I'm sitting in a chair reading a magazine waiting for them to be finished when an older lady (70's) comes up to me and says, "Excuse me. Do you mind if I tell you something?" I look up from my magazine to see what she wants to tell me. She tells me, "You have very pretty hair." I wear a wig, as I'm sure this lady could tell. I replied with a polite thank you as I look back at my magazine. The lady then puts her hand on my shoulder and says, "You are a very pretty girl, even though..."

Okay, so, I know this elderly lady was meaning to compliment me and I know she meant well. But...it is frustrating to me that people assume I need cheering up. I'm fine thank you. In fact I feel I have a pretty high selfesteem, I'm smart and good at lots of things. I don't mean to toot my own horn but I think I'm prettier than most, hair or no hair. Like I said, I know this lady meant well but those kind of comments make me feel bad. Am I suposse to wish I looked like someone else or something? Because I don't.

Just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.

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Comment by Tallgirl on March 18, 2009 at 10:38pm
You could always tell her she's a very nice lady, but.....
Comment by Mary on March 19, 2009 at 12:21pm
For people who I will never see again I just tend to go along with whatever they say. So even though my hair is very thin and you can clearly see my scalp(wig time is right around the corner for me)a lady at work complemented me on how my hair looked. Instead of going into an explanation or comenting further I just smiled and said "thanks" and went on with my day. I think real self confidence is letting things go and just getting on with what you are all about and what you need to get done. I imagine in the future I will get many remarks and looks but basically how I have handled other public situations is just to let it go and get on with my day. Be happy. We don't always have to correct everyones misconceptions. Its ok to let someone think the wrong thing.
Comment by Lindsay on March 19, 2009 at 12:21pm
awesome!!! i feel the same way..... cheers to being proud of our uniqueness! <3
Comment by shuaa on March 19, 2009 at 7:48pm
hi Jill i completly get you because i face it all the time and i used to ask myself why dont they just keep it to themselves? but i guess they will never do ..any way if there anyone who have a problem it's them and they need to change their misconception. cause we are proud of what we have.
Comment by Julia on March 19, 2009 at 10:44pm
I understand...I had to correct a lady today when she asked me how long have I've been "suffering" from this....I informed her "NO, I'm not suffering at all...do you mean how long has this been apart of my life..."

Your self esteem is how you feel on the inside about you with or without your wig...LOVE YOU!

Take care
Comment by Lee on March 20, 2009 at 12:59am
Right on!!
Comment by Jill on March 20, 2009 at 5:03pm
Thanks for all the support guys!

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