It's times like these...

I dont really blog but i wanted to share this experience because its one of those things that make you put things in perspective.

I work in a hospital and see sick people all the time and it kinda keeps me balanced with my hair situation, Well the other day i was hooking a heart monitor to a young lady of 25 with beautiful thick hair and i noticed she had no breast due to breast cancer and she noticed my head scarf and asked why i wore one. I answered that i was losing my hair and she didnt say anything for a minute and then said to me that she would change places. I was shocked because not many women would say that and she told me that losing her breast was one of the hardest thing for her because women are suppose to adleast have breast. She then said she believes she doest really have enough skin for breast implants and besides those scare her.

She also wonders how any man would take her if he found out that she was missing the one of the things that really made a woman a woman and she wanted a kid one day and she had wanted to breast feed. She thanked me for listening and then turned over in bed and i wished her the best and left.

I will never regain my hair because of fpb and wear wigs and scarves but you know its times like this when you step out of your own head and realize that people have problems either bigger then yours or going thru the same emotional truama as you with the lost of something thats part of you and makes you feel whole.

I still have my days that i wish my hair could come back and am slowly getting to the acceptance stage but i wont forget her and the many people who make me think because you come to realize that if losing hair is the worst thing that can happen then personally i'll take it.

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Comment by Alison Hobbs on August 19, 2010 at 6:53pm
Correct! There is always someone worse off then you! Thats my theory. At least we are healthy :)
Comment by Kimberly Duncan on August 19, 2010 at 7:14pm
Thank youfor sharing that, it brought tears to my eyes. Been one of those days I have been feeling sorry for myself. So I need to step back and realize it could be worse.
Comment by Gail on August 19, 2010 at 8:19pm
Absolutely. I hate having alopecia each and every day, but compared to people like her, it's nothing.
Comment by Robbi on August 19, 2010 at 8:37pm
Thanks for sharing this story, Tiffany. It really puts things in perspective, not only for the alopecia aspects, but for life in general. It's so important to be grateful for and cognizant of our health and life.
Comment by Natalie on August 19, 2010 at 10:05pm
That is a great, but sad story. Thank you for sharing. We really are lucky to only be dealing with the loss of our hair and not other, more malignant health problems.
Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 21, 2010 at 11:16am
Tiffany, thanks for sharing. I had a similar story or a woman who asked me if I was going through Chemo, when I explained that I had alopecia. She told me that she looked like me 3 months ago. We talked for a bit and before she left, she state that she wished that her hair was her only health problem. I smiled lightly and wished her good health and thought the same.
Comment by Kate on August 22, 2010 at 12:30pm
What a meaningful experience. Thank you for sharing. What I take away from your post, in addition to feeling grateful for my own health, is the understanding that everyone has the potential to experience a loss or change that gives them doubt and knocks self confidence and self acceptance. Be it hair, breasts, a limb, a learning disorder, a psychological condition, or a body shape or size, everyone has the potential to experience self doubt and anxiety about their worth and value. We are not alone in our feelings, and we are not alone on our path to acceptance. What this means to me is there is so much more room in the world for understanding and compassion. We are all of us, alopecian or not, sharing in a similar human experience. I find it a positive thought!
Comment by Fox on September 19, 2010 at 8:30am
Yes I have the same outview on hairloss...there are much worser things that can happen in life
Comment by Lavira on October 3, 2010 at 7:41am
Very moving story, thanks for sharing. Such situations really make you realise that people have much worse problems and that you should be glad that you "only" have to deal with what you have.
Comment by Jo Jo on October 27, 2010 at 9:48pm
So true. Why does it take a sadder situation for most of us to realize how good we truely have it. Whenever I go to work and hear my coworkers complain about their jobs, I think about how grateful they should be just for still having a job (especially with this "recession"). The same is to be said for those that walk around complaining about all the things they need to do and how they can not find the time to do it when in reality they should be thankful for being mobile enough to run errands and thankful for having the time still available to them in the first place! So Why? Why does it always take extreme situations for a switch on perspectives. Seriously , I think that we should ALWAYS remeber how precious it ALL is and thankful for it all on a daily basis, and whoa to those who allow themselves to forget. Force yourselves to appreciate and love life ALL the time and whenever possible remind all those that don't! Ttys <3

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