I was in Florida for vacation with family this past weekend. We rented a condo by the beach. We decided on Saturday to have a shrimp boil. We had to go grocery shopping for everything to make it. My Mom and Aunt were going to the store to get everything. At first, they were just going to go by themselves. I wanted to make a dessert so then they decided to have me go along also.
We went to the register to check out. We had bought a 24 pack of water, and the employee asked us to hold it up so she could scan it. My Mom had to hold it up 3 times, and got annoyed with the employee so our experience started off badly. Then all of a sudden the employee turns to me and says "did you just have surgery?". I was wearing a scarf. I said "No"... "I have alopecia". She said "What do you have". I said "Alopecia, it is hair loss". Then I look at my Mom and she mouths to me "say it is none of your business". Then the employee starts to tell me about how she had surgery, and had her hair shaved off then wore a wig. Then she told me all about her wig and how she still wears it occasionally. Meanwhile, I can tell my Mom was upset and ready to leave the store.
As we were walking to the car, my Mom makes a comment about how I don't have to say anything. I said "but I need to create awareness as much as I can". She said "but most people won't care or listen". I said "I want to try to raise awareness as much as I can so maybe next time the person won't ask that question".
Then later that night my Aunt & I were sitting on the patio alone. She said "did that upset you or your Mom more today". I thought that was a great question. I think it upset my Mom more than me. However, if that had happened 2 years ago, I probably would have started crying. I am in a better place now so it doesn't upset me like it would have in the past. I don't live close to my Mom, and I don't tell her about my daily experiences with people like this one. I believe this was her first experience with me with something like this so I can understand her reaction. I like to believe she was just sticking up for me. It might have been hard for her to see & hear something like that. She knows what I went through too over the years so that is why I think she was just sticking up for me. But, she was the one who told me that people are ignorant, and that I was being vain so it did surprise me a little how she reacted. We will see what happens next time! Until then... I will continue to try to raise awareness.