Indiscreet best friends

So I just opened an account on facebook, which I'm starting to regret. On my profile picture I'm wearing my wig, and I love that picture so much because it was so hard to get a good picture with it. On my camera, my hair came out too shiny, and it look really fake. So I finally took one on my phone and loved it.

Before I got a wig, I asked my best friend to go with me to a wig shop because I didn't know what to look for. At the time, she was dating some guy and I guess mentioned that she couldn't go somewhere, some day because she was gonna go with me to a wig shop, which she never did!

At her birthday dinner, when I finally met the guy, he turns around and asks her in front of everyone, "Is this your friend with the wigs?"

What a great first impression!

So she hasn't seen me for sometime and the first comment I get on the picture is her asking me if it's my wig?

Her crush is IMing me and after a while says "brb baldy"

I was furious! This is exactly why I didn't want anyone to know I wear a wig. Ignorant comments like that just piss me off. Although I don't have Alopecia, reading the stories on this website, and knowing how much people suffer from hair loss made me have really strong emotions towards the subject.

I told him that the comment he made was uncalled for since our friendship has not developed enough to start insulting each other. And I told him about Alopecia world.

He said he was sorry and asked me if I had the disease. I told him I didn't know him well enough to tell him such a personal thing, but I probably wouldn't tell my best friend because she would just blab to whatever guy she has a crush on.

Has anyone had any similar experiences? I know I should have ignored it, but I couldn't resist telling him off. Plus, I got to educate an ignorant person :)

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Comment by Tallgirl on August 3, 2011 at 8:30pm
Now you know why some of us use the security blocks on Facebook. You could always defriend that gal and block who sees you. Plus, never tag yourself in photos. If your ex-friend wants to talk to you, tell her to e-mail or pick up a phone.
Comment by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on August 4, 2011 at 1:33pm
im so sorry to hear that you have to experience this. There is many of us from here that have friended eachother on facebook, a great support connection across many networks has been wonderful.

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=lf#!/groups/150821058320967/

this is one group i have developed to bring unity to all. there is many more wonderful ones but its a start
Comment by Sophia on August 4, 2011 at 1:45pm
I'm sorry you're going through this. I can imagine you feel uncomfortable with him asking you these questions & being very rude to you. Honestly though, there will ALWAYS be people like this, friends or just people on the street whispering, staring at you or even making rude comments about your hair. So I'd suggest you delete him off your friends list (if you haven't), delete her off your friends list & move on. Only add people you are actually "friends" with. Don't let it get to you, because seriously, that's exactly what these people want. Show them your strong side. You're bald, so what. It's only hair. Alopecia is NOT who you are :) Next time someone asks you if you are wearing a wig, just say Yes, do you like it? I think it's beautiful! :) They will shut up after that because they see how you're confident with your wig. I have said this many times in discussions on here. Alopecia is not a big deal to others if it isn't a big deal for you. Good luck with everything!
Comment by Evan on August 5, 2011 at 4:35am
This guy was / is a moron - what a way to impress the ladies
Comment by Marie on August 5, 2011 at 11:27am
Maybe you need to reconsider the word "best" in the title of this blog.

It s terrific that you want to support people with Alopecia and your input on the site is very welcome. If you are willing to share this information, I am a little curious about your wigs. Since you don't have Alopecia, do you have another kind of hair loss? Or are there different reasons for wearing wigs? Do you have friends with Alopecia?

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