Comment by LilyBell*Murphy'sLawLuvsMe on October 8, 2011 at 1:58pm

I am sorry this happened to you - if he calls he is worth having around - if he does not - he never was. I also struggle with getting mad and depressed and I will NEVER accept that this hair loss thing is NORMAL. I do think we make the best of whatever life dishes out but that does not mean that I have to accept it and not demand a cure be sought after.

Again sorry this happened to you - hoping the best for you.

Comment by Amy on October 8, 2011 at 5:20pm

I too am so sorry this happened. He might not even thought it was a big deal. Sounds like you have known him awhile now so he was making love to you and not your hair. I wish you luck!

Comment by Tallgirl on October 8, 2011 at 7:11pm

If a guy needs YOUR hair to feel like a man or have "arm candy" in front of peers, then he can go buy his own wig to walk with and sleep with!

Comment by Mary on October 9, 2011 at 10:49pm

Amen, TG!

Comment by sarah bradley on October 10, 2011 at 6:14am

i can relate to this, i am only 16 years old and i have absolutely no hair on my body or head. i wear wigs every day of my life, its the only thing that makes me get out of the house!
i was swimming once in the local pool and dived in and it came off, i then came up from the water with everyone staring at me. its the worse feeling :(

Comment by R0BB on October 10, 2011 at 11:48am

LillyBell - As always , right on the mark with this one.
TallGirl - Ditto
Sins - lookey here , although I can understand your sizable misfortunes in the past .... I also agree with you. ( But plz ... just know that not all fellas have these types of short comings.)

Great responses here ...allow me this :

Fancy - Try to see this occurance as a postitive one . The cat is out of the bag , your worst nightmare as you call it has come to the surface. And guess what ??

He seems to love you no matter whats going on up there.
Give him a big kiss and tell him everyday how happy you are to have him in your life:)

Comment by MiNAH on October 10, 2011 at 7:02pm

This is why I finally felt better when making the choice to go without. I never wanted to feel such shame, discomfort and heartache. What they see is what they get and no doubt what they want. I have no problem being bald, because I know that now after being married to a man who revolted by my baldness ... I will never stoop that low as to accept someone who's heart wasn't into "ME" it's such a powerful load off my shoulders, one I never has do endure ever again. Keep a check on his attitude, and what he says. If he is ashamed of your for any reason...I would address it.

Comment by Eliza alisa abgail on October 11, 2011 at 9:51am

Have a little faith. Most guys this days don't really care for hair... which I hope he falls in this category Even a friend of mine (guy) doesn't understand why I worry too much about my wig...If your man leaves then he is the fool.

Comment by FANCY1024 on October 11, 2011 at 9:56pm

Hi Everyone, Thank you for your great responses and best wishes. It’s all great advice. I will do my best not to worry and take that advice. He’s always told me that he’ll never let me go and that he loves me. I’m trying my best to truly know that he still means it. Time will tell. Not sure when I’ll see him again (usually between 2 weeks and 2 months depending on our schedules). My schedule is an open book for him right now………. Wow that sounds desperate! Guess I am at this point. Just to know the truth. How I hate to feel this way! Since I got this wig I’ve felt so much more confident and more like myself and I can’t believe I’m back to feeling this way again. I’m praying every day and night that he comes back. If he doesn’t, I don’t think I’ll ever be able to wear it with another partner with confidence again. How can you possibly enjoy yourself with someone when you’re constantly worrying your wig will come off or come loose again??? Thanks again! Hugs Di

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