I have never been outside without a wig :/ Nobody knows the real me

So I have had Alopecia Universalis since I was 14 and I have been wearing a wig since I was 14 dealing with the torture of others and being the laughter of all the other kids at school. People always thought I had cancer that's why I wore a wig some girls even tried to pull it off of my head.I am currently 18 and college student. Nobody has seen me without a wig except my mom my sister & my boyfriend. I am finally beginning to accept myself and love myself without the hair. I want to go out with out my wig but I am so scared. Scared who would accept me and who won't especially my family. Some of my family believe that hair is beauty and when I was diagnosed with ALopecia areata and had bold spot at the age of 10 my family thought I was losing the only beauty a female had, and they don't know that I have Alopecia Universalis because when I was diagnosed with it I isolated myself away from my family because I was afraid they wouldn't understand. How do I show them the real me do I just go up to them with out a or wig what? I'm scared.

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Comment by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on November 16, 2011 at 7:50pm

I too felt that fear of what others think if I went out without a wig or scarf. But once I loved myself, loved the person that I was inside, my soul and everything. I learned that it truly didnt matter what others thought. Those that truly care for me will stand beside me regardless. Cause the truth of the matter, hair or the lack of it, doesnt change the person you are inside. Appearances change through out your life. Why should the lack of hair be any different. Even with a fat ass and a bald head....I love the person that I am. Its alright to be scared and nervous from time to time. Thats a natural reaction. Just own the person that is inside of you and nothing can truly affect you. It is a task to do it, but once accomplished you will truly own your life. I use to tell myself and others that I was fabulous, even if I wasnt really feeling it at the time. But if you act the part soon it becomes reality.

Comment by Angela Francisco on November 16, 2011 at 9:42pm

Thank you so much you are truly an inspiration.

Comment by Karli R. on November 16, 2011 at 11:35pm

High school students, just pure ignorance... that seems like a tough time to go through.. but I'm glad you pulled through and are finally accepting your hair loss! :) I think if you were to go out without your wig, people may be shocked but will still appreciate you for who you really are. True beauty is on the inside, and hair isn't necessarily needed on the outside either. :)

Comment by Eliza alisa abgail on November 17, 2011 at 4:41am

hair,bald or scarves all those things don't define who you are. Your personality does that And you can switch when ever you like. Wigs are like hats, you always have the choice. :D

Comment by Ilia Reed on November 17, 2011 at 8:49am

One thing of getting older and maturing is to liberate oneself from peer pressure. Even if they like to see you with something green, red or brown on your body, you decide. The same with your head. Do as you like. The reaction is often different as fearfully anticipated. So if you are ready to take heart, take it. I would just be happy to meet a beautiful bald mate like you. Take care :))))

Comment by Angela Francisco on November 17, 2011 at 10:47am

Thank yo so much. You all are right hair does not define you!

Comment by Alliegator on November 17, 2011 at 10:48am

I have been scared too! I think so many of us have those same thoughts and feelings. I say take baby steps! It is all about the baby steps. I have been venturing out in my neighborhood bald on occasions lately. From what I have seen, if you don't make a big deal about it, others won't either. Strangers might ask you questions, but you don't have to answer if you don't feel like it. I saw some family this past summer that I had not seen in over 10 years. One night we all went to the pool, and I went bald. I didn't say anything to anyone about it, and no one said anything or looked at me strange. It was wonderful. If you would like to read my blog it is... lifeasabaldgirl.wordpress.com

Comment by Susan Innes on November 17, 2011 at 12:39pm

Angela _ You are gorgeous! If I had ever looked like you at any time in my life, the wigs would have disappeared. However, as Ailsa abgail commented, you can switch whenever you like. If the peers are making fun of you now, then not wearing a wig will probably not make the situation worse. Some people will recognize the courage and offer congratulations; every little positive reaction makes us feel better. "It's not the things that people say; it's not the things that people do: it's how people make us feel that we remember.:). (I'm sorry if this quote is not quite correct; I also don't remember where it came from but it held true for me.) ((Hugs)), Susan

Comment by Lili on November 17, 2011 at 5:08pm

I hope you get to go out without your wig on soon... I'm routing for you. You're stronger than most girls ;). The spirit is what makes you beautiful, all children should be taught that by the people around them. I'm sorry to hear that your family wasn't supportive. A lot of models are bald and some shave their heads. You are absolutely gorgeous and could get into modeling if you wanted to! Don't let other opinions get you down, people are just afraid of what is different. I agree with everything Susan says, some people will recognize your courage... hugs!

Comment by lovelyjan on November 17, 2011 at 10:11pm

You are Beautiful!!! Free yourself and become who you really are. I too was scared at first because.. we have a fear of who will accept us been a bald female. I decided this past May that I was not going to hide anymore and took off the wigs give God all the Glory and now live life as a bald woman. I have had AU since age 9 with regrowth at an later age and by the time reached 24 completely bald again and at 47 loving it!! The stress of people not knowing is gone.

Best Wishes..Be Bold,Be Beautiful,Be Strong and most of all Be Yourself!! Hugs

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