So what. No hair. Once you are no longer relating to the world like high school, wanting a model or wanting validation about your own looks, you know you will be looking for some human qualities in others that please you and make you comfortable.

We all know that silly list that goes on dating sites about eye color, hair, body type etc. They never ask the real questions.

Likewise, when caught up in alopecia fears, maybe we lose sight of what it is WE have to give OTHERS...and we think we have to match those surface descriptions. I want to hear not what you think your eyebrows, head or wig look like, but specifically what YOU have to offer another in terms of friend qualities. Please do NOT mention looks. Those will change, fade, or sag over the years anyway. Trust me...I am older than you.

Which ones of you out there in the WORLD like people from the inside out? And, what do you have to give humanly?
List your age so we can see what the different answers are according to life experience.

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Comment by Norm on September 17, 2010 at 6:59am
TG, you're right, you ARE older. Soon, you'll be able to write your autobiography - "TallGirl - The First Hundred Years". But don't do one of those book-signings, though, or your fingers might drop off. :)

Well, what can you offer someone else.... ummmm. It's always hard talking about yourself.... and you never see yourself as others see you, anyway. That's why most peeps on those dating sites have such godawful descriptions of themselves - who'da thought so many people love staying at home watching a DVD with a glass of wine?? Yaaaaawwwwnnn......
As for me, obviously I don't have to mention my looks, but that's mainly cos I haven't a clue what I look like once the goggles are off. So my blatant self-promo would say something along the lines of "witty guy of indeterminate years offers life experiences involving travel, fun, and non-conformist world view.... able to converse on a variety of topics, but always with a slightly wry, cynical take. Hates authority, rules and regulations. Usually able to see the positive side of situations, but also sensitive and tactful when necessary. Out of manufacturer's warranty period, but all parts and accessories still working. New female owner required, who can operate with a delicate touch. No particular attributes required, other than warmth, intelligence, a breezy outlook and the ability to make me smile. Hair a disadvantage, as I'd rather you spent the money saved on shampoo etc. on me instead. And it'd be cool to be the one with the most hair for a change."
Yeah, OK, so I mentioned looks.... but I did say I hate rules!! Other than that, is that what you wanted? Do you want my number? ;)

Oh, right, my age..... 56, heading rapidly towards 57. L's Bells, how did I get here without realising?? I'm still 21 in my head!!!
Comment by Tamara on September 17, 2010 at 8:32am
Hi, Im Tamara, Im 25, and I am a awesome listener and advice giver. I'm told sometimes I'm too nice, and that gets taken advance of. But I don't like to see anyone hurt or upset.
Comment by Sam Sam on September 17, 2010 at 12:10pm
Im 24. I am very committed to God, my friends and any relationship I make. I love God. I like all human beings make a lot of mistakes but I always see the lessons from them and keep going. I dont think a problem will be a issue if it can be fix. I dont get angry fast. I always want to see the better in things. I can live to tell the story! :) I am happier and nicer when I Pray.
Comment by Mary on September 17, 2010 at 7:23pm
Gee Norm, I didn't know you're younger than I am! I turned 57 a few months ago.

Happy Birthday, Tallgirl!

I love people for what's inside. I love a good sense of humor. And, I admit I'm partial to people who share my love of dance and music.
Comment by Tallgirl on September 20, 2010 at 11:15pm
Will be 58 in about a week. Like to share my own wisdom when I think it can help a situation. Straight and responsible as they come, but willing to break some rules, too, with a kindred spirit. ;) True-blue friend over many years...willing to dive into an issue even when it hurts. Seeker of those with good memory and the ability to talk for hours or write long letters without spelling errors. Willing to put aside work to laugh a bit.
Comment by Lori Van Decker on September 21, 2010 at 10:13pm
I'm 55 (will be 56 in March). It's taken me decades to get to make full peace with my alopecia. I still am reserved about going out and about in public without head cover, but I have no problems with telling people about my alopecia and switching my hair out...sometimes more than once in a day. I've literally gone to ballroom dance practice sessions (which get pretty "warm") with two wigs and often emerge from the ladies' room with a fresh "do" in different color and length after the original gets sweaty. One time I did this and got a round of applause when I came out of the bathroom. What did I do? A short bow, of course!
Comment by Tallgirl on September 21, 2010 at 10:30pm
Interesting: three of us in the twenties, four in the fifties so far on this blog! Is looking to the inner qualities in self and others a generational thing? What about anyone's in the teens, thirties or forties valuing this?

And dang! Am I STILL the oldest one on here??????? Yipes! Maybe we oldsters really ARE just 21 at heart...or, our wisdom gained has brought us full circle.
Comment by Petra on September 21, 2010 at 11:49pm
I'm 49 and believe that you are only as old as you feel. Honesty, integrity, the ability to laugh at one's self. I like people that are open minded and like to try new things. Oh yeah, spell check :-)

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