So the guy I told that I have alopecia. 2 ½ weeks ago I called our relationship off for good reasons. I found out that because a guy accepts you with alopecia doesn’t mean it will be a match made in heaven, it only made me realize that a lot of other guys will be just accepting.
First he never called/text after working hours. And he was always too busy. Too busy to call/text/be together, sounds like maybe a wife @home. I said what am I doing dating you? So after trying to explain this to him and he agreed to change and did not. I called it off. He had been on vacation since the whole BALD coming out thing! Thanks be to God!
So he emailed how I was doing. Story short he asked to see me (we both work in the same location). In my mind I said, “yes I get to test this bald thing out for real.” He has seen a picture of me bald but never in person, it was becoming real. I told him I looked different but sure ! LOL who knows what was running through his head @ DIFFERENT!!!! I thought maybe I can really scare him away because I don’t need him to start calling and emailing me after the drama!
Exciting. Yes, BUT! I was nervous after the invite. What have I done? I don’t want to see him! Esp. not bald! My co-worker tried to calm me down. “You don’t even like him.” I said Yes but bald is bald, I thought about it. And sat at my desk waiting for him to enter in. I see the door open. His scrubs, I stare waiting for his reaction.
I jump up and say “HI HOW ARE YOU? I LOOK DIFFERENT DON’T I? He smiled, “No, SO what this is you! Who cares!.”
Scaring him went out the window. He commented on how good I look and how he would like to have lunch. How me not talking to him hurt him… so on. As I worked and talked at the same time he said “Look at you! You look so comfortable! See I told you it doesn’t matter and besides it looks good on you.”
I am happy that he liked it but now I don’t think he will ever stop calling or texting. I plainly had to tell him to leave and agreed to have lunch if he did so!
In the past, I can't believe i didn't want to date because I was bald or was hiding under a wig. I spent 2 years in a relationship hiding it from someone. When he even mentioned changing my hair style i would ignore it or start an arguement to try to end the relationship. If someone likes you they like you for you.
I read on someone’s blog that said bald girls have more fun!
Its true! Not all days are happy! But the comments that I get are so hilarious sometimes, the stares and reactions can be funny as well (if im in the mood to respond back). I am happy being me, I can laugh joke and forget my hair is gone sometimes.Until someone is staring in it like a fortune globe! LOL God Bless.