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Well this is assuming anybody will want to read my "Blog". I have never done one before so here goes. Just updated my profile so spent time wandering about the site.
Being fellow Alopecians, we all must have intresting/funny things happen to us.
I was reading Cal,s blog and it made me think about doinag a short one myself. She was speaking about reactions to going out bald. I have noticed that I get different reactions depending where are am, for instance, I live in a working class town, many people stare through ignorance, my local supermarket is huge and I hate going there, and I always come out feeling deflated, sometimes the comments can be hurtful. I work in the volunteer sector, and have never suffered any comments that are not kind or caring. And like Cal and I suspect many others, people assume I have the big "C", which I am eternally grateful I do not have.
The first time I went abroad after losing my hair, we were taken under the wing of a large group of couples from near where we lived in UK. They were a wild bunch and great fun. One guy was huge 6'6 and built like a brick ....house, Im sure you get my drift! He was also a really rough diamond, as they all were. Very late on the 3rd evening, after many many drinks, he put his arm on my shoulder and said "you are a very brave woman, I admire you (me?) you must keep fighting it! I opened my mouth to put him right, and he turned and with tears in his eyes said " I lost my mum to cancer 2 months ago. He then broke down. I didnt feel it was the right time to tell him mine was alopecia. He treated me like a delicate china vase for the rest of the holiday, much to his wifes amusement. I met him about 3 yrs later in UK and put him right, he said he was so pleased I hadnt told him on holiday, as I made him think about his mum everytime he say me. Bless him.
Ok thats it for now,think these are supposed to be short and sharp.
Well this is assuming anybody will want to read my "Blog". I have never done one before so here goes. Just updated my profile so spent time wandering about the site.
Being fellow Alopecians, we all must have intresting/funny things happen to us.
I was reading Cal,s blog and it made me think about doinag a short one myself. She was speaking about reactions to going out bald. I have noticed that I get different reactions depending where are am, for instance, I live in a working class town, many people stare through ignorance, my local supermarket is huge and I hate going there, and I always come out feeling deflated, sometimes the comments can be hurtful. I work in the volunteer sector, and have never suffered any comments that are not kind or caring. And like Cal and I suspect many others, people assume I have the big "C", which I am eternally grateful I do not have.
The first time I went abroad after losing my hair, we were taken under the wing of a large group of couples from near where we lived in UK. They were a wild bunch and great fun. One guy was huge 6'6 and built like a brick ....house, Im sure you get my drift! He was also a really rough diamond, as they all were. Very late on the 3rd evening, after many many drinks, he put his arm on my shoulder and said "you are a very brave woman, I admire you (me?) you must keep fighting it! I opened my mouth to put him right, and he turned and with tears in his eyes said " I lost my mum to cancer 2 months ago. He then broke down. I didnt feel it was the right time to tell him mine was alopecia. He treated me like a delicate china vase for the rest of the holiday, much to his wifes amusement. I met him about 3 yrs later in UK and put him right, he said he was so pleased I hadnt told him on holiday, as I made him think about his mum everytime he say me. Bless him.
Ok thats it for now,think these are supposed to be short and sharp.
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Comment by Cal on November 17, 2009 at 4:42am
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Oh, I'm really chuffed my wittering has inspired you to post yourself. Thank you!
I know I'm really lucky living in a city with a cosmopolitan bohemian air - I don't have the most unusual looking hairstyle I see on any given day, not by a long shot. I can sympathise with the working class town thing, though. My family live in a very small, very parochial town and I'm going to stay with them over christmas. I suspect I'll be all hat, all the time in public there. But you sound like a strong woman with a lovely family and maybe in time, the people in your supermarket will come to recognise that you are you, whatever you have on your head, and it will get easier? I hope so.
And keep blogging! It's an excellent way to get things down, clear your head and on here, to find other people who have been there and done that and know just what it's like.
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Comment by linda carraway on November 17, 2009 at 7:59am
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I just had the experience of showing my sister and neices my baldness.They were all very supportive! I was in a car accident in feb. I had 6 staples in my head and my sister came to the hospital and helped clean the blood out of my hair.She was more worried about how my wound healed then me not having any hair! My total loss started in june and finally shaved in oct.I have realized noone ever talked to me about my AA,they just ignored it ! Both other times I had huge loss I wasn't around my family,which I realize I could have used some support.I do have a wig and I love to be able to put it on when I feel like it but I have to say I don't wear it much.I am comfortable without it!Most of the people in my community are very nice I can't stand it when they get all goosy ,oh dear,stay strong . I usually just set them straight ,unless its a sweet little grandma! I met one lady who started talking to me because she had just been told she has breast cancer! We talked and I explained and she hugged me anyway and said I was very brave ! I love grandmas,wish mine was here to give me the huggs like when i was little Ok too mant tears.
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Comment by Mary on November 17, 2009 at 10:59am
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Alopecia World has been my first blogging experience, too. Good job, Gill - keep it coming!
I was approached by a guy in a big warehouse store (Costco) one time who spent ten minutes telling me all about his wife who had died a year earlier of cancer. This was AFTER I told him I don't have cancer. I just reminded him of her, and it comforted him to talk with me. Didn't bother me at all.
I recently had some T-shirts made on Cafe Press. (Not the 2010 National Bald Out ones I put up - those are separate.) My new custom shirts say: "Yes, I'm bald...get over it." on the front, and "No hair. No Problem." on the back.
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Comment by kastababy on September 1, 2011 at 12:29am
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Hi Gill!
For your first blog, it's a very good one. Everyone has to start somewhere, and I'm glad you chose our community to start! Keep it up; you're a natural!!
P.S. Thanks for the friend add!
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