It's been just over 5 years since I accepted my alopecia and stopped hiding beneath a wig. In that time I've met and married my gorgeous husband, had our 3rd child, completed post grad qualification in HR, been promoted and had so many memorable experiences.

I can honestly say that none of this would have been possible if I'd been wearing that wig still because for that whole time, I wasn't myself. Everything I did was hindered by baldness and a fear of being teased! I look back at my former self and cringe because I was so ridiculously insecure, hiding in my own home close to becoming a recluse.

There was one low point, last year I lost my eyelashes and eyebrows which I thought made me look ill but I quickly got used to it. In fact, I think the moment of acceptance was when my mother-in-law (thinking she was being kind) bought me an eyebrow pencil and at that moment my stubbornness took over and I refused to hide again.

I know being bald for everyone to see is difficult at first but I honestly have never been happier or more confident in my life! Even if they suddenly came up with some miracle cure, I don't think I'd be interested (well maybe for my eyelashes!)

No matter what stage you are at with your hair loss, please just try to accept it and carry on being you!

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Comment by Lyndsey Pitchford on September 14, 2014 at 5:34pm

Thankyou for the positive post and I'm glad you've found acceptance in yourself. I'm still trying to reach that stage but right now I'm caught in the in-between stage of sometimes going out bare headed and feeling proud of who I am and the quirkiness that is the way I look and sometimes I just crave being pretty in the 'stereotypical' sense and to hide behind my wigs :( xxx

Comment by GardenJess on September 16, 2014 at 1:12pm

Good for you! I am tempted to print out your post for my husband to read. I try to express how being comfortable in my own skin is more important to me than looking like I "should," but it is hard not to feel like I am somehow weird for feeling that way. I know it can't always be easy even when you have embraced the baldness, but what an example to set for your children about self respect, self worth, dealing with adversity, being different, being upbeat...I'm sure the list could go on and on.

Comment by Jennifer on September 16, 2014 at 4:30pm

Emily, I feel the same way!!  I think I have accepted my alopecia way sooner than most, but by accepting it, it has made me much happier in life.  Everyone deals with things differently and on their own time table, but we don't have to live in fear or be insecure forever! Thanks for being positive!

Comment by Lexi on September 26, 2014 at 9:51pm

Good for you!!  But I don't see it as hiding beneath a wig.  Some of us just of course feel we look better with hair, and then you are able to dress up and feel normal.  Not everyone has the prettiest face and the nicest scalp.  If you are a really pretty girl, I feel you can dress yourself up and put on some rockin' earrings and do up your eyes and makeup.  Still look pretty.  Some of us need more help....LOL.  And hair is definitely a help!!!


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