Comment by Tallgirl on May 11, 2011 at 10:20pm

When one has too much time on the hands, rumination starts. Continue on one blog where we can check in. Daily and hourly, it is hard to keep up with the moods and feel like we are helping when we DO answer. It's like, when someone says, "That's a nice dress," and a person answers, "Oh...THIS old rag?" It kind of shoots down the one who gave the GIFT of a compliment, making him/her not want to try again. If you have tried the same thing several times with no lasting relief, maybe you could now try something DIFFERENT? Think about your -als and -ics... musicAL, spirituAL, domestIC, maternAL, educationAL, romantIC, professionAL...this list goes on and on. Make lists after each -al or -ic, and do projects, go to seminars, rent videos, attend lectures, buy used self-help books, talk with others about all these other aspects of life. You may not miraculously get your answer to "Why me?" from the sky about alopecia, but you sure can make a complete life in all the other areas. The choice is yours to stay put or move in new, fulfilling and fun directions despite the hair thing. After all, Orthodox Jewish married women wear wigs even WITH hair, and nuns cut off hair but are great people. Life goes on!

Comment by Sophia on May 12, 2011 at 6:29am

We all have these days, but it could be so much worse, don't you think? What if you lost both legs & had to sit in a wheel chair? Or your arms? As long as you're healhty that is all that matters. By any means, I'm not trying to be rude or anything but one day you will realize that is really is JUST hair & you will be okay with that :) I promise.

'God will never give you more than you can handle' :)

Comment by Pat on May 12, 2011 at 10:54am

Sometimes it just gets like that, I often had those days when I hid myself away. I was scared about what was happening to me, exhausted from putting on a good front for my family and others, and absolutely in a state of shock. You're still in the early stage of shock at what's happened and those days will get less and less but it takes time and a lot of courage on your part. No matter how nice people are, no matter how supportive they are, they are not in your shoes. You will get through this, we all do in time...but it takes time. Hugs to you...

Comment by Carol on May 12, 2011 at 8:43pm

The Lord knows I've asked Him that questions many times myself, many years ago! It took me a long time to figure it out but he was forcing me to learn something. I learned a lot about people in general however, most importantly, I learned a lot about myself and how to truly love myself for that is needed if you are ever to love another. I learned how to share the gifts God gave me. Alopecia made me honest, humble and an optimist. You may feel as though God is cursing you by allowing your hair to fall out but He has blessed you, you just haven't opened your eyes yet. Acceptance will come with time, even though we all have alopecia here, we are all at different stages and have different stories. What we do share is the knowledge of this condition and how it feels to live with it. Do not ask yourself why God allowed this, ask yourself what he wants you to see/learn. Good luck on your journey with alopecia! :)

Comment by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on May 13, 2011 at 2:48pm

Its amazing that we can still bounce back and forth so greatly. One day on top of the moon, our confidence high and then BAM !!! down again. I chalk it up to all part of the journey and have to believe that those down moments get further and further apart. Just remember you are beautiful, amazing, strong and FABULOUS (my personal favourite word LOL)

Comment by Liz on May 15, 2011 at 12:12pm

It gets better! Hang in there! I hope that you are feeling better today. It sounds as though your hair loss may be a new problem. I have been losing my hair since my late teens, and now that I am in my early 50s it has continued to get thinner over the years. For me, I have felt a lot better about it since I have been able to manage the situation. I have several pretty scarves, hats and wigs that I am comfortable in, and that helps me to feel better. I think that if you look good, you might feel more like getting up and seeing people again. Please don't give up. I hope that this might help you to feel a little bit better.

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