Comment by Mandy on May 19, 2008 at 11:41am

Hi Courtney - the dating thing kinda scares me, too, having just been diagnosed with aa myself. But look at it this way...any guy that would not want to be with because of your hair is probably not that great of a guy to begin with. He probably would have been disappointing in the relationship even if you had your hair. You're better off without those losers. ;)

Comment by Karen on May 19, 2008 at 11:53pm

Hi Courtney,

my cousin told me that any man that looks at the alopecia and not the inner beauty is not a real man at all. So next time, you come across a guy that judges your condition....just think that they are really not worth your time at all and only give your attention to the guys that see your true beauty.

Comment by 3mee on May 21, 2008 at 7:43am

Hi Courtney!

On the bright side, we AA have a natural filter that filters out all the jerks. Let's salute all the guys and gals who appreciate us for what we are!

Comment by Carol on May 21, 2008 at 8:12am

That's why I stopped wearing a wig! I couldn't hide anymore, take me for who I am! Make the image work for you and you'll attract the right kind of people that don't get weird when they discover the real you. Until then the fear of someone going away when they find out will always be there (or so I've found). If you just can't bring yourself to get out in public without a wig, you're going to have to be more up front about it, tell them right away - why take things farther than they need to go? Afterall, honesty is one of the biggest assets of any relationship!

Comment by Courtney on May 21, 2008 at 11:42am

Thanks everyone... I guess I'm still just getting used to it.
But thanks for the advice and comfort! =)

xox

Comment by Emma on May 21, 2008 at 6:52pm

The dating thing scares me but only because i split up with husband last year, i have had a couple of dates since then that have fizzled out on their own i have an honest approach when it comes to men i tell them right on the first date if they then decide they don't want to know because i am bald that is their problem not mine and are not worth knowing, it also means that if it goes to a second date then i can wear a different wig - i generally try and match my wigs to what i am wearing they are more accessories to me than hair

Comment by Courtney on May 21, 2008 at 8:43pm

thanks emma. I tell all of the guys I talk to that I am bald and explain to them why. And there are a couple I'm still friends with but they act SO different. I understand that they are not worth it if they choose to act like some of them do, but it makes me wonder what it'd be like if I did have hair and everything was normal. hmmm...

But yeah, I'm getting passed it. =)
Thanks again!

xox

Comment by Ken on May 25, 2008 at 4:19am

<3

Comment by kristin on December 13, 2008 at 9:55pm

hang in there sister, we all hear you.

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