Dating and Alopecia

I am a new member to this site. I am a 45 year old single (never married) woman and have had Alopecia Totalis for the past 15 years. I have tried everything re: dating and it has chipped away at my self-esteem so much. I have told some guys about my problem after they get to know me and have dated for a couple months, and I have told guys on the second date when there seems to be mutual chemistry and compatiblity. Neither have panned out well for me. I have take long hiatus' (years) from dating to avoid the discomfort and potential rejection. I feel like I am going to be alone for the rest of my life and I have so much to offer someone. The prompting for this post is due to a man I started dating who recently rejected me for what I assume was my telling him about my hair condition. He simply disappeared a couple days after I told him. I go from feeling incredibly hurt, to feeling he doesnt deserve me and how much character can he have in the first place, to feeling very angry. I am of the belief at this point that no matter how much confidence one has about being a hairless female does not erase the superficiality of guys out there.

Just thought I would get this topic going again on this forum.

Lesli

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Permalink Reply by serg navaro on August 22, 2017 at 3:54pm
Hello everyone,

Unfortunately I've let my Alopecia get the best of me when it comes to dating, I've been single 4 years now, everytime I meet someone I get so paranoid because I wear a hair system ( I hate the word wig)lol, I'm constantly wondering if they notice anything or if they're wondering why every time they see me I always have the same hair cut. I dated someone for 1 year until she started asking questions, when I came clean she actually accepted me and my condition at first but with time I think it bothered her and eventually we went our seperate ways.

I've always been scared to be rejected because of my Alopecia so I just don't date a lot anymore. Sucks. Just wanted to give my expericane and feelings on the topic.

Sergio
Permalink Reply by Mi on August 22, 2017 at 4:59pm
Hello,
We can not give up, hair is just an accessory, the important thing is what we are and our action in the face of the problem. I tried to meet some guys but when they find out about alopecia they give up. But one day we will find someone who really love us.
Permalink Reply by serg navaro on August 23, 2017 at 12:45am
If I didn't have patches I totally would! Lol but I'm hopeful it'll grow back with this treatment...if not then at 30 I'll go bald
Permalink Reply by Sad1995 on August 24, 2017 at 9:29pm
Women love bald guys? Are you serious? How many bald men have you dated. I bet zero. Stop spouting off worthless platitudes that mean nothing and help no one. Seriously I bet I would have to pay you 5000 grand to go on a date with a bald guy.

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