Where acceptance is all there is
Let me just preface my post with this-- I love my wigs. I'm gonna humbly brag a little here and say that they're beautiful, and, when compared to my friends' hair, my husband tells me that mine is far and away the sexiest, :) I don't mind spending 10,000+ every few months to have brunette "hair" like mine.
But I feel disgusting when I'm not in my wig. I hate it as much as I love it. I hate sleeping in it at hotels, I hate having to bring multiple wigs on trips for different purposes (I can elaborate on that, if I need to). I hate leaving company to run to the bathroom every few minutes to check on my hairline and make sure my eyebrows look good. The thought of my wig coming off nags at me every day, and I just want to live my life like I did when I had hair and didn't have to spend this much and worry this much to look like I do.
I'm conflicted and would appreciate comments. I need to vent and I need advice.
I get my wigs from Paula Young, they are not very expensive and I can change them up when I feel like it without experiencing a large cost. I do not wear them to bed, but I do rotate them, keep the older ones for wearing around the house and yard while doing housework and yardwork, thus keeping the one I wore to work and out of the house fresh. (I am retired now thus wore and not wear). As far as what do I wear to bed at home and hotels. In the winter I wear a stocking cap, my head gets cold, the crocheted or knitted cap fits securely and stays nicely during the night. I sort of landed on this idea by accident, my husband had so many and I just was so cold one night so I asked him to get one out of his dresser and it worked wonderfully, the next time I went shopping, I got one in a light blue (my favorite color), now I have several pretty ones. During warmer weather my head still gets cold, so I have a few scarves that I wear and one turban that I got from the Paula Young catalog. For me I still freeze due to the air conditioning. As far as my brows I pencil them in myself, the pencil I use comes in several shades, and on the other end has a brush like mascara that seals what I have penciled. My brows stay just as fresh when I come home as when I put them one. After 43 years of having AU my philosophy is keep it simple. I tried all the gimmicks in the beginning, even fake eyelashes both top and bottom to try to look "normal" . I think all I was doing was driving myself nuts and drawing attention to what I just wanted to not draw attention to, in the end I stopped all make up for a time. I only do what makes me feel comfortable now and while my husband was alive, he was happier with a happier me.
The kanekalon ones last just as long as the more expensive wigs, about 7-12+ months. What a bargain! I have a couple I wear to bed every night. The only ones that DON'T hold up are the VersaFiber wigs which look bad- stiff- after the first washing.
I've had a vacuum wig for about a year and I absolutely love it (and so does my husband)! I never have to worry about it popping off or slipping. Sometime I even wear it up in a ponytail and it looks fantastic and natural (and no, I don't sell these!). In the spring I went to Arizona on vacation and went for a long hot hike. I could feel the sweat dripping down the back of my head and neck. That was the only time I've ever felt the least bit uncomfortable. I just felt hot - I certainly didn't suffer from heat exhaustion or feel like fainting like someone suggested above. My wig was the best money I've ever spent. If I continue to take great care of it, it should last 2-3 more years. I also had my eyebrows tattooed with permanent makeup and that's the second best money I've ever spent. I found a really amazing makeup artist. They look completely natural and absolutely no one can tell. Once a year, I just go back and have them touched up. I know exactly how you feel. I used to feel self conscious all the time, worrying about my wig popping off or my eyebrows smudging. I live with complete freedom now. It's such a relief. I highly recommend both.
Call Jaine Frank. She is a rep for Freedom Hair and she also wears them. you can find her on their website.