It never fails to amaze me that even when someone finds out that a man is of bad moral character –they will still defend him.

WHY? Is it because they are so blinded by his BS? Is because they are so desperate for male attention that they are willing to lower their standards in order to have some, MAKE THAT ANY male attention – no matter how unworthy that man is? Does being a female suffering with hair loss make us more vulnerable to these men, more accepting of these men who are far than being ‘desirable partners’ or even worthy friends?

Do we females with hair loss settle for these frogs?

Why are some females so willing to listen to the lies and misrepresentations of such men? Why so quick to defend those men?

Why do some women even turn on other women who have been hurt by such men – refusing to believe bad things happened to these women?

I don’t get it.

If one woman calls you a jackass, ignore them, but if 5 women call you a jackass, make an appointment with the tack shop and get fitted for your saddle.

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LilyBell, as a father with three adult daughters, five sisters and a plethora of female relatives, friends and acquantances, let me be the first to say this is NOT a woman-with-alopecia problem. There are just as many women with a full head of hair willing to defend men with suspect character. If anything, I think it has to do with human pride -- most people just don't like being proven wrong, especially when it comes to the (prospective) love of their life. A few months ago I also read an article that suggested this troubling apologetic (defensive) tendency might be attributed to the economic phenomenon of a shortage of worthwhile bachelors. Whatever the reasons for the puzzling defensiveness about which you are inquiring, it would be reductionistic in the extreme to ignore how widespread and common the problem is and, as a result, single out women coping with chronic or severe hair loss (i.e., alopecia).

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Like RJ I don't believe this behaviour is the sole domain of those with hairloss.

I think if there is anything in people's life that causes them to feel somehow different. To feel like they have no control, to feel totally without power...there will be problems with relationships.

Nobody likes to be told that the person that is supposedly caring for them is lacking morals and is not great for them. I've seen many situations like this in my own life...it's miserable for all involved. I understand the frustration around this as well.

People will do what makes them feel good (sometimes even if it is just short term), they are willing to forget the long term pain as long as they get the love they require every now and again they will often live in situations that are less than ideal.

I think the only way to help is to give the tools required to empower the person to know they deserve more. That they are worthy of love all the time and bad behaviour for whatever the reason is never ok...it must be addressed if it erodes who you are.

Some people never believe this of themselves (that they deserve beautiful good things in life). It's very sad and very frustrating, when you are looking on and see the pain.

Keep supporting and helping - that's all we can do.

Rosy

Beautifully stated, Rose Marie'.

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