The 'Third Date Rule' by Debbi Fuller - Alopecia World2024-03-29T08:16:07Zhttps://alopeciaworld.com/forum/topics/the-third-date-rule-by-debbi-fuller?id=2022678%3ATopic%3A1062631&feed=yes&xn_auth=noYou snagged a good one; one o…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2019-03-22:2022678:Comment:14581152019-03-22T18:40:53.492Zree221https://alopeciaworld.com/profile/ree221
<p>You snagged a good one; one of the "gems". And it is all due to your attitude. You have a very healthy perspective about your condition. You are open and up front from the get-go. You're an inspiration. Bravo!</p>
<p>You snagged a good one; one of the "gems". And it is all due to your attitude. You have a very healthy perspective about your condition. You are open and up front from the get-go. You're an inspiration. Bravo!</p> I know this post is old but i…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2019-03-22:2022678:Comment:14582922019-03-22T18:33:29.762Zree221https://alopeciaworld.com/profile/ree221
<p>I know this post is old but it is still relevant!! Thank you for sharing this with us. I could not agree more with your advice. As a 56 year old single woman with scarring alopecia, the thought of getting out there and dating scares me so much I rather not even try. The dating scene is brutal as it is let alone having a hair loss issue! But after reading this...I have a smile on my face. I have a new perspective and a much better attitude. I AM worthy of a healthy, loving relationship with a…</p>
<p>I know this post is old but it is still relevant!! Thank you for sharing this with us. I could not agree more with your advice. As a 56 year old single woman with scarring alopecia, the thought of getting out there and dating scares me so much I rather not even try. The dating scene is brutal as it is let alone having a hair loss issue! But after reading this...I have a smile on my face. I have a new perspective and a much better attitude. I AM worthy of a healthy, loving relationship with a man who can see the "whole person" and inside my soul. One who is worthy of me as much as I am worthy of him. This post gives me new hope that there ARE good men out there who are mature and deep enough to see past superficial attributes of a woman and love her for who she is on the inside. There may be a lot of rejections on a 3rd date when my condition is disclosed. What a great way to filter out the trash and give allowance for the gems out there. Again...thank you for sharing this!!!</p>
<p></p> Thanks so much None! I was h…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-11-06:2022678:Comment:14012622017-11-06T11:48:50.577ZDebbi Fullerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/DebbiFuller
<p>Thanks so much None! I was hoping that this would help people. Glad you like it!</p>
<p>Thanks so much None! I was hoping that this would help people. Glad you like it!</p> Hi Patricia T. THIS is one o…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-11-06:2022678:Comment:14012592017-11-06T11:48:43.814ZDebbi Fullerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/DebbiFuller
<p>Hi Patricia T. THIS is one of the reasons I wrote this. Yes, it's distressing when someone is so shallow that they can't handle the news, but it's SO much better that you find out quickly rather than investing time and emotional energy into someone who just isn't worth it! I can guarantee you that there are plenty of guys out there who WILL love you for exactly who you are, hair or no hair. He just wasn't the right candidate. Keep shopping!! Let us know when you find him too!</p>
<p>Hi Patricia T. THIS is one of the reasons I wrote this. Yes, it's distressing when someone is so shallow that they can't handle the news, but it's SO much better that you find out quickly rather than investing time and emotional energy into someone who just isn't worth it! I can guarantee you that there are plenty of guys out there who WILL love you for exactly who you are, hair or no hair. He just wasn't the right candidate. Keep shopping!! Let us know when you find him too!</p> Hi Debbie,
This answer helpe…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-11-06:2022678:Comment:14011392017-11-06T08:57:43.059ZPatriciaThttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/PatriciaT
Hi Debbie,<br />
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This answer helped me so much. I am two years divorced after a 10 year marriage and one of the things that made me take so long to leave my unhappy marriage is I was certain no one would love me or find me physically attractive without my wig/weave. I opened up to my ex about third/fourth date and he was just so loving. Although in the course of our marriage when I would be training for a marathon or just taking a break and living without my weave he could get a bit mean and…
Hi Debbie,<br />
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This answer helped me so much. I am two years divorced after a 10 year marriage and one of the things that made me take so long to leave my unhappy marriage is I was certain no one would love me or find me physically attractive without my wig/weave. I opened up to my ex about third/fourth date and he was just so loving. Although in the course of our marriage when I would be training for a marathon or just taking a break and living without my weave he could get a bit mean and dismissive.<br />
Anyway, now I’ve started dating and I met someone who I liked enough to be open about my condition. So on our fourth date I revealed my true self and he couldn’t leave fast enough. He even took everything he had previously left at my house and I’ve never heard from him since. I’ve been feeling hurt but I also count my blessings because it is what it is. He just wasn’t willing to accept me as I am. I have since been practicing self love and keeping an open mind trusting there are better candidates out there. Thank you You totally did the right thi…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-03-12:2022678:Comment:13602312017-03-12T16:26:03.439ZDebbi Fullerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/DebbiFuller
<p>You totally did the right thing None! If he'd been a jerk, you'd have avoided a lot of heartache but he was a GOOD guy and you KNEW that going in!</p>
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<p>You totally did the right thing None! If he'd been a jerk, you'd have avoided a lot of heartache but he was a GOOD guy and you KNEW that going in!</p>
<p></p> Debbi, love this advice...wis…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-03-11:2022678:Comment:13600802017-03-11T21:55:07.341ZNonehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/BronxToBoston
<p>Debbi, love this advice...wise and spot on. I told my now-husband of 25 years ago that I MIGHT lose all of my hair. At that time we had been dating for 4 to 6 weeks (can't recall exactly) and I had all of my hair, but since I had a history of erratic alopecia, I wanted him to know that it was very likely that I would need to go back to wearing a wig in the future. Of course it was an academic discussion since I did have my hair then, but I really pushed him to consider me bald and how that…</p>
<p>Debbi, love this advice...wise and spot on. I told my now-husband of 25 years ago that I MIGHT lose all of my hair. At that time we had been dating for 4 to 6 weeks (can't recall exactly) and I had all of my hair, but since I had a history of erratic alopecia, I wanted him to know that it was very likely that I would need to go back to wearing a wig in the future. Of course it was an academic discussion since I did have my hair then, but I really pushed him to consider me bald and how that would make him feel. He was and continues to be very supportive of me...with full head of hair, ..with only tufts of hair...and now with no hair. </p>
<p></p> Tatiana, you need to think of…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-02-19:2022678:Comment:13582322017-02-19T20:16:25.664ZDebbi Fullerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/DebbiFuller
<p>Tatiana, you need to think of this differently. He did you a FAVOR!! He's a shallow ass and you just dodged a bullet! What would have happened if you had been a woman with hair, you married him and then you got breast cancer and lost a breast? Would he have left you because you weren't "perfect"? Consider yourself lucky. THIS is why I tell people to tell the guy after the 3rd date. All you need then to get over him is a large glass of WINE. Forget about him - fast.</p>
<p>Tatiana, you need to think of this differently. He did you a FAVOR!! He's a shallow ass and you just dodged a bullet! What would have happened if you had been a woman with hair, you married him and then you got breast cancer and lost a breast? Would he have left you because you weren't "perfect"? Consider yourself lucky. THIS is why I tell people to tell the guy after the 3rd date. All you need then to get over him is a large glass of WINE. Forget about him - fast.</p> I was dating a guy for about…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-02-19:2022678:Comment:13582292017-02-19T20:05:49.039ZTatianahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Tatiana473
<p>I was dating a guy for about 3 month. First we were more like friends. He never noticed that I had a wig on.</p>
<p>So when things started to became more romantic between us I told him about my alopecia. We were at the lounge drinking wine during that conversation. The guy was literally in shock. He made up a story that has to wake up very early, asked for the check and that was it...:( Its been 3 weeks already and he never called again. I was always secure and confident with my alopecia.…</p>
<p>I was dating a guy for about 3 month. First we were more like friends. He never noticed that I had a wig on.</p>
<p>So when things started to became more romantic between us I told him about my alopecia. We were at the lounge drinking wine during that conversation. The guy was literally in shock. He made up a story that has to wake up very early, asked for the check and that was it...:( Its been 3 weeks already and he never called again. I was always secure and confident with my alopecia. But his reaction made me feel like a fool and ugly. I cried for a week. Even lost 5 pounds which is a good thing. I just did not expect this reaction from him. All I expected is to hear that I am still beautiful but instead got a knife in my back....sucks.</p> Hi Connie,
I'm clueless! Whe…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2017-01-24:2022678:Comment:13542742017-01-24T23:47:08.273ZDebbi Fullerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/DebbiFuller
<p>Hi Connie,</p>
<p>I'm clueless! Where do I find your blog? Can you send me a link? debbifuller3@gmail.com</p>
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<p>Hi Connie,</p>
<p>I'm clueless! Where do I find your blog? Can you send me a link? debbifuller3@gmail.com</p>
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