It's Hair Loss Support At Its Best
I come to you today just so upset and heartbroken. I have Alopecia Totals, but that isn't what is upsetting me. I have accepted my condition.
However, My 10 year old daughter has just started losing her hair about a month ago. I sat up with her last night as she cried unconsolably. It's falling out so fast for her - just like it did for me 17 years ago. My heart is breaking for her and I'm so angry and frustrated because there is nothing we can do. It's just so unfair. She said she doesn't even feel like herself anymore because her hair is disappearing.
As parents, how do you keep your child encouraged through a hairloss transition?
How do you handle the "I don't want to go to school like this" issue?
Thank you in advance for any advice you can provide.
Thank you for your response. It's such a different feeling seeing my child go through this as opposed to when I went through it myself.
I appreciate your in-put.
Hello Kara's Mom,
My heart goes out to you and to your daughter. Is there a Children's Alopecia project support group in your area? I am seeking one in my area. Those are great events to connect with others who are experiencing the same things.
definitely worth looking into. :)
Thank you so much. You are wise - and I appreciate your input. This is a crazy journey, isn't it? But it's great to know we are not alone in it. Much love to you and your son.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, as well as your advice. Yours and your daughter's strength is inspiring! God bless you!
My almost 12 year old son has AA - I know how heartbroken you must be feeling - it's far more painful watching your children go through something than it is for yourself. You just feel so useless.
Best of luck
Yes it's disheartening to see our child go through this. Please know you and your son are not alone in this journey. Thank you for reaching out. ((hug))
I lost all my hair over a year ago and I struggle with the fact of it everyday, even though I've accepted it, it's still hard no matter. I have a 13 year old daughter and she feels bad for me and worries about me. I have the same fear this may happen to her. She had thick hair and I've noticed within the last year, it has gotten significantly thinner. She LOVES her hair. She understands my condition, she's been to dermatologist appointments with me and the the salon for wigs. I've explained to her that this may happen to her some day and if it does, no matter what, she is still beautiful and the same person inside and just because the outside changed a little, we will work together and make you feel like you again. I know it's easier said than done, but you've got to support her as much as you can. It is a dramatic change for ANYONE, young, old, male, female going through this. You got to show her that you are strong and she can be just as strong as you. I wish you both the best of luck!
I'm not sure what the right thing is to tell a 10 year old girl. One thing I know for certain- things could be a lot worse than alopecia. I know this is difficult for you as a parent, but you are so lucky to have a healthy child. She could have lost her hair for an entirely different reason. One thing alopecia has taught me is how to be a great person, because I look at people entirely different now. I realize everybody has their own quirks, but they don't define who they are. Unfortunately, her classmates are still kids and a lot of them won't understand this notion. Your daughter is going to be a better person because of this. All I can say is to just instill confidence in that little girl. Tell her she's beautiful every day. I hope her dad is there to tell her every day too. I believe that God can make good of these seemingly awful situations. My mom was a special needs teacher and she had my little brother, who has a rare (one of six) genetic disorder. Only she could've handled that situation with such grace. You have the same condition as your daughter. I don't believe that is a mistake. You have what it takes to handle this situation, to love and support your daughter every day. Make the best of this situation and I'll be praying for you along the way. One day you will both be able to look back and understand how this disease changed your daughter for the better.