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Tonight I was putting my son to bed and he mentioned art class was tomorrow and the teacher is really mean! Then he told me she is still not letting him wear his hat in class which is crazy because earlier in the year we had the same problem with this teacher so I had a sit down with the principal who insured me that this issue was resolved and that every teacher who is in contact with him was aware that he could indeed wear his baseball hat! I asked him several times before he went to bed are you sure? He said "yes,mommy I promise"....so, now I am sitting here trying to get my thoughts together and thought it was a good idea to write on here instead of sending his teacher a crazy email at 10pm at night!lol! I know that I will probably not get to much sleep tonight just waiting for morning so I can call the office and report this teacher in hopes that it is effective before my son has to be in her class again! It just is crazy why? What is the big deal? Let the boy wear his hat!! Idk?.. I know that we are new to this journey and I know we got a lifetime of issues I'm sure this is only the begining..it just blows my mind how ignorant some people can be..would it really interupt her class to have him wear it? Is his self esteem not important? Why, would a educated person deny my son the right to feel safe and comfortable? Idk?. I just don't get it:(
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Permalink Reply by sarojas1 on
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Sorry to hear about this. Such a shame that we can't rely on the support of some teachers! If it were me, I would contact her directly first, preferably in person 1st thing before school starts. This let's her know it's important and serious to you.
There really is no need to argye, clearly explain the agreement held and then question why she is not adhering. Based on her response that will let u know if the principal or superintendent need to be involved. Oh and I always include the reminder on how repercussions or indifference to my child will not be accepted and how important it is we work as a team to encourage and support the children!
I'm sure you know all of this, but I hope it helps!
Best of wishes!!!
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I misread the part about the teacher already being addressed! I would still definitely in person address her unannounced and get her reasoning. Then take that directly to her boss!
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Permalink Reply by Garlandsmomndad on
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Yes, when I requested to speak with the art teacher they said I had to go through proper chain,which would be his teacher first and then the principal they are not wanting there to be a "confrontation" so basically I couldn't address her one on one! And, the next day I did write an email to his teacher who took it totally personal because I told him that I would make a formal cm plant with the school district, I guess he thinks I'd give him problems..so, before Christmas break was a little awkward..lol..I needed to remind myself not to feel bad for sticking up for my son. I must include however the problem is now resolved,,he went to art and was not asked to take his hat off!,,Mission Accomplished!!!:)
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Permalink Reply by Yessi on
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I am so sorry you and your son have to go through this issue. My son also wears a hat and before going to school i made sure to get a Doctor's note stating that it was an absolute must he wore his hat so no issues with teacher would arise. I hope that was of some help and wish you both the best of luck in this situation.
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Wow,,,that's a great idea..his next derm visit I'm going to get a note!! Awesome advice!! THANK YOU!:)
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Even a note from his primary physician will do fine until you see the dermatologist. I just find it better to have something in writing incase of any further issues you have something in writing to back it up. Besides it's a medical condition the school staff should be understanding but unfortunately not everyone is. My son's principal actually allows other students to wear hats too so my son is not singled out.
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Permalink Reply by JessicaStinkle on
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It is ridiculous that the teacher is behaving this way. It is very unprofessional and the problem should be addressed maturely so it's good you decided to come here to vent. However, how long is he going to wear his hat for? What's wrong with his hairless head? I'd be seriously offended if someone told me to cover up, as if I have something to be ashamed of? Sure it's more comfortable to wear the hat and maybe safer when around children but shouldn't you also encourage your son to embrace himself as he is? What happens when he goes to fight his first speeding ticket in court and the judge tells him to take it off? Will he wear a hat on his wedding day?
Regardless of my opinion. I'm assuming this is public school, a doctors note addressed directly to the teacher should work. If not, try to find the leader of the school system (I can't think of the position name), as it is obvious the principal can not solve the problem for you.
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Permalink Reply by di on
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Shame on this Teacher. The well-being of the student should come first. Always. I am so sorry that you and your son have to go through this.
I am a teacher with alopecia. Shame on this person.
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Having a son That has alopecia i understand the struggles when it comes to school and how hard it is with the teasing and what not. I had the doctor give a note to help him cope with his condition. I do believe he should enbrace his condition but being realistic i know that its a process it wouldn't happen over night. And for the time being he feels better wearing a hat. He knows he can take it off if he pleases and i am sure he will when he becomes more comfortable with his condition. I shaved my head to support my son and its been 6 months since i did it and its still very difficult to adjust.but i am doing it to support my son's condition.
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You are a fabulous mommy! And, may I add you look beautiful. My son is newly diagnosed and he isn't ready yet to shave his head. I tried asking him today if I could trim the top because his top crown is now growing in. It's a different texture kinda like baby hair. Anyway, he isn't going to let me touch it! Honestly I'm trying to convince him maybe trimming it to make it even but he's not buying it..I showed him you and your son and even mentioned how handsome your son is but still nope..he isn't budging!lol..
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Yes! I love it I told my husband she has one more time or I'm calling fox 5! And, no I don't think it's too drastic I am also vigilant when it comes to my children so I definitely love knowing I am not alone when it comes to the lengths I will goto defend my children! And, now that my youngest son has Alopecia I'm sure I will be tested on so many levels..have a happy holiday.
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I DO NOT TAKE THIS TEACHER'S SIDE. But on the other hand she may be an older person who does not allow boys to wear hats indoors due the old fashioned respect thing, or she may feel if she lets one kid wear one everyone will wear one (not that I think that there is anything wrong with that and I teach). You must sit down and have a meeting with both the principal, teacher and your son (I would also involve the school social worker if there is one). Good luck and god bless.
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