My relationship with men always seemed to suffer because of my alopecia. Maybe its just the men I ended up with but it seems to me men love a womans natural hair. They love to smell it and play in it, no matter the length. Wigs and hair pieces have ultimately turned them off. When my ex of many years and I broke up he found someone with a headful of beautiful hair. If I could find a head covering that would fool them it would be great. Is there such a thing? Hmm.

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I don't know if you want to fool someone you care for, I think you will be loved for who you are not just what you look like. In saying that though you should have the choice to present yourself how you want to and if that's a hairpiece there are alternatives which look very natural and are secure and comfortable.

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Rosy
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Eileen
I remember reading a response from someone on this website that suits this topic. She said that she always goes around completely bare, and she has a zero percent rejection rate. The men who like her like her, and the men who don't simply don't. When a man is attracted to her, she knows they like her for her (physically, emotionally, etc.) since they're not being mislead by wigs and hair pieces.
Someone else once said that if you wear wigs, you are going to attract men who like hair. If you go out just as your are, you'll attract men who like bald women.
Whatever you choose to do is completely up to you, but just know that there are plenty of men out there (probably more than we both realize) who find bald women to be just as sexy (if not MORE sexy) than women with hair.

Alexandra
Yes, makes sense. A guy is usually not going to like you just because you are bald. I have known several friends with alopecia but to whom I was not attracted. Everyone is unique. Be who you are as much as you can be yourself. I am learning to be the fat, old man I have grown to be and that is fine. When someone likes me, gosh she likes me!
Men like hair but they don't like fake hair. I have found too though that men like bald women. Depends on the guy, his morality and ethics as well as his social status (job, income, friends, etc...). Everyone is different so don't be discouraged, you will find someone who does accept you for the wonderful self that you are but make sure that acceptance starts with yourself!
Sorry Carol, but I dont agree with you at all. What gives you the right to say what men like and dont like? My boyfriend likes my fake hair, and Im not sure if he would be with me if I walked around bald. Not to say one is right or one is wrong, but to say men do not like fake hair, well, many men do not like bald either.
Jo...It really depends on the man. I havent dated any that had a problem with my alopecia ( that I knew of), but you will meet some that do, I am sure. I think its about feeling confident in your own skin no matter what you wear. You should wear or not wear what you think is beautiful. Do not hide your alopecia, but maybe work it in slowly. The key is to find a guy that loves you no matter what.
"Everyone is different so don't be discouraged"!!!! Everyone's entitled to their own opinion, that's why the forums were placed here. And if your boyfriend might not be with you if you walked around bald - what gives you the right to tell someone not to hide their alopecia? Perhaps your boyfriend only likes your fake hair because it prevents you from being bald? Now there's some good love!
No, Actually, I LIKE ME WITH HAIR!!! And the reason I said not to hide alopecia is because he's obviously going to find out. I appreiciate the fact that you comfortable being bald and you can show the world...BRAVO! However, I love hair, always have. I used to be a hairdresser. I NEVER ASKED FOR THIS DISEASE! The REAL me has long beautiful hair, and you know what? He loves me for me. Now, please do not attack my boyfriend or anyone elses on here that like hair. That's rediculous...you do not know anything about him, or what we share. Maybe he would like me if I walked around bald, maybe he woulndnt, but I wouldnt like the way I looked.
I think that perhaps in these posts we have to be very clear about what our intended meaning is so as not to offend anyone.
Of course everybody is entitled to their opinion but that does not mean one should impose it upon another.
I too love hair, natural hair over my wigs. Although having wigs means I don't have to worry about bad hair days and trying to style it. I can just pop it on and presto I have salon styled perfect hair.
The fact is though that my hair is pretty much gone now and that is the real me I believe. That is why at the end of the day the person you are dating has to be told about the condition.
I prefer to call it a condition as a disease sounds catching to me!!
I wouldn't feel the need to tell someone I didn't plan on seeing again though.
Everyone should call it what they feel most comfortable with. Personally - I used to call it an auto-immune "condition", but I changed and started calling it an auto-immune "disease".

The reason I did this is because it makes it more real to people who don't understand that I'm not making a "fashion choice" to be bald. It also makes it clear to people that I am dealing with something serious, even if it's not life-threatening. Other auto-immune diseases such as MS, fibromyalgia, lupus, and Crohn's Disease, are all called "diseases".

However, I do often add that it's not contagious.
Meow!!! I missed this little cat fight
My fiance and I made a deal. If I lose all my hair then he has to wear a wig to work. It's the same equivalent right? Works for me..lol

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