Ive had AA since I was 8 years old and this year I will be turning 24. Over the past few months I have become tired of covering my head all the time. The wigs are hot and at time uncomfortable. I do go out in my backyard without them and the wind and sun feels great on my head. My husband is completely supportive of me going outside bald and actually prefers me bald. My goal is to go out without anything on my head this summer, but deep down Im very afraid. So I guess my question is, how did you wake up one day and have the courage to out outside in public completely bald?
I am also the mother of an 8 year old who lost her hair 8 months ago. She is amazing and often goes without her hair. When she is amongst strangers she gets a few stares, but she is usually strong enough to give them a great big smile back - and that always works! There have been the occasional comments and they do hurt (both her and myself), but overall there has been far more positive reaction than negative.
I'm with you that wigs can be hot and uncomfortable. This past summer I shaved my head and went about bald some of the time. I still usually wore a hat outside for sun protection though. What I still haven't done is gone bald around my usual set of acquaintances and friends. Depending on how my hair grows or doesn't, I might work up to that next year. It is a hard step though. The first time I went bald in public it was a hot summer day, and I had specific errands to do and no expectation of seeing people I knew. I agree that doing it was easier than thinking about it. Also, getting used to being uncovered at home made it feel more natural to be out and about that way. If going totally bald seems like too big a step, you can always wear a lightweight scarf instead of a wig. I have made no secret of my hair loss and wear hats or scarves that don't hide that I am missing hair but do avoid the "Hey, I'm bald!" look. In the end, just putting on some confidence and standing tall may be all it takes to get you over the initial fear. My mom took a couple of photos of me this summer with a bare head, and I love how happy I look in them, happy in my own skin.
Thats what Ive worked up to is just wearing a light scarf when Im out and when I go to the gym, but a little piece of me still feels like Im hiding in a way. Dont get me wrong, I am comfortable with the way I look, Im just scared of the stares.
Thats my husbands motto for it " It is what it is" but it takes alot of courage to take the step to go out it public bald. I know that one day I will with my husbands support. We will conquer this one day.
I don't know if I'll ever have the nerve, but I can totally understand the frustration. I've just developed this condition over the past few years, and its frontal hair loss so I have been using a piece of hair extension which I've had my hair stylist cut and fit to be bangs and then we cover it with what's left at the back of my own hair. Its a pain every morning, hairspray and teasing and fixing. Not to mention the hair extension is glued in and gets itchy or comes loose. But at home I wear a scarf as I feel so ugly and hate the fact that my husband has to look at me like this. My husband loves me unconditionally and tells me to do whatever makes me comfortable. Windy days are brutal. You're beautiful, just go for it. I've been without the scarf at home and have also gone out the backyard because I forgot. One day, I'm just going to forget and it will happen.
I totally understand your frustration, I remember being in 6 grade and dreading the windy days because all I truly had was a comb over. I completely lost all the hair I had 5yrs ago and just this past year Ive had the courage to go in my backyard bald and no care what my neighbors think. I know I will beat this one day soon but when I think about going outside without my scarf or wig I convince myself today its the day. One day I think Im just gonna throw all the wigs away and say the hell with it lol.