How do you handle the stares and comments of being a bald woman?

I've been bald for a year now,and I've actually received more compliments than rude comments and uncomfortable stares. How do you handle the attention?

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Permalink Reply by Mary on July 22, 2015 at 12:57am
You are beautiful and you could pull it off. Not everyone looks nice bald
Permalink Reply by BaldBeauty on July 22, 2015 at 11:21am

Thanks,Mary!

Permalink Reply by Leresa on July 22, 2015 at 3:03am
Hello Bald Beauty,

Foremost, congratulations for deciding to go bald on your own accord aka natural for a year. Most people do not choose their Truth in Public. I decided when I was 29 years old to stop wearing wigs to make people feel comfortable around me ( really it was me not feeling comfortable around them). It was either suicide or live my life on my terms. I was the "It girl" forced into the indifferent girl, who learned very quickly how the world works. Some people are more programmed than others, age has nothing to do with it I found. Long story short, people treat you how you treat yourself, you get what you put out in any case. Alopecia is unique and cannot be comprehended unless you are enduring the experience. Don't get me wrong, I would rather have my hair back at bare minimum: Comfort from the sun and other instances that I have discovered. I concur, that I have had more compliments like you than I can count when I get out of my head, some people are chosen to be an example to teach and breakthrough our opposition in regards to standards of Beauty. In Hindsight, I wish I went Bald sooner, it's just so Damn comfortable, besides when it gets Cold.F$$k what people have to say, 9 times out of 10 those who give you havoc have no substance or ambition, & are not worth your time anyway.
Yes I do get stares, something like a A lister Actress especially when meeting new people & dating, but I've grown to get used to it. Think of it as you are a Leader setting the tone, someone has to do it. I salute you from one Queen to another.
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Permalink Reply by BaldBeauty on July 22, 2015 at 11:21am

Thank you for your kind words,Leresa! :)

Permalink Reply by Cissie55 on July 22, 2015 at 4:44am
I wear a wig
Permalink Reply by Mary Burns on July 22, 2015 at 5:28am

I don't handle anything, I wear a wig and nobody is any the wiser.

Permalink Reply by day on July 22, 2015 at 6:00am

Try to remember that you are a great person. Maybe try to wear some clothing your are comfortable in and try to just think about what you are doing. And don't worry about the stares. I think people don't know what to say. I know it's easier  said than done. I couldn't go anywhere without my wig. So I admire you for that. However a wig might be the answer. 

Permalink Reply by Meryl on July 22, 2015 at 6:46am
My daughter is 11 and has Universalis. She has not had hair since the age if 4. We decided from the beginning that smiling at people was the best way to handle the stares. People smile back or turn away. I think kids stare because they are super curious. When my daughter smiles, it tells the starers that she's happy and normal. I sometimes have to remind her to smile and sometimes it's hard, but it always seems to work.
Permalink Reply by Tuesday on July 22, 2015 at 8:19am

"When my daughter smiles, it tells the starers that she's happy and normal"   

So true. Your phrase above illustrates my goal since developing AU 15 years ago - just smile and exude happiness and positive energy as much as possible. 

As for the looks - yeah - I just still find , when bald in public, I will get gaping mouths & stares.  As Meryl says, some people stare because they are super curious.  As for the others , I guess not much you can do to control other peoples' reactions - especially strangers'.

Permalink Reply by Pam D. on July 22, 2015 at 8:17am

I admire anyone who has decided to go "au natural". I'm not there and don't know if I ever will be; the closest I can come is wearing a hat or scarf out in public. Even then, I get some stares and sometimes people think I'm struggling w/cancer. If they say something, I use it as a way to educate people about the condition. If they stare, I simply stare back, maybe smile.

You are right though; I did see one woman in public w/o her hair and I thought she looked fabulous...her attire and her attitude pulled it off; I looked at her not because she was bald, but because she looked so exotic and wonderful. I wish I had been able to tell her she had made my day! I have seen other women w/hair shave it very close and thought they looked beautiful, too. I honestly think I look pretty good w/out hair, but I've never liked drawing attention to myself that keeps me from going out w/o a wig, scarf, or hat. Just going to keep working on it.

Permalink Reply by Meryl on July 22, 2015 at 9:17am
I saw a woman last night out to dinner with no hair and we just looked at each other and smiled. It felt great. I think the more people who go with out wigs the less shocking it will all seem to other people. My daughter with AU is so beautiful. Her confidence and strength teaches me tolerance every day.
Permalink Reply by Dorothy on July 22, 2015 at 10:43am

I NEVER go without my wig, I have had AU for over 42 years now.  I think some people look beautiful without a wig or their hair and wear NO HAIR well.  Others just do not have the right bone structure, confidence or style for it.  Call it what you want.  Just not the right thing for some.

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