I'm finding that other people think about my alopecia more than I do, and it's starting to really annoy me. I don't dwell on it at all anymore. I've made my peace with it. But others continue to see me as a person with a wig, when I see myself as being like everyone else. It's like they can never get past this, when I have.

Anyone else feel this way??? I'm just venting about ignorant questions and comments and am tired of being the recipient of gossip by other parents at my kids' school.

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I'm with you on that Deb. Having been through loss, growth, loss growth pattern I get fed up with people saying:
1) Ooh your hair's grown back, isn't that a relief. I knew it would cos I know someone who it happened to and they were fine once they stopped worrying.
2) Are you stressed again, that's why it's falling out again?
3) You must sort out how you deal with your stress.

In fact I'd love someone to invent a t-shirt saying"It's not all about stress!"

Thanks for the chance to moan. xx
Hi Deb! I do understand. It's self conscience about yourself. It's so hard everyday to even leave the house for me. Accepting and being confident will make you a better person. Lord knows, there are others out there worse off, like maybe some of those parents. Sounds as though they have nothing better to do. I get that alot too, and I am starting to feel now that it is affecting me getting a job. I'm trying not to think that way, but it's hard. I have been on multiple interviews with no luck yet. To me sometimes, they see me as being sick.

If you have gotten past the depression and have moved on and accepted it for what it is, that makes you the best parent anyone could have. Strong minded! U take care!
Hi Deb! You are a beauty! I find that's half the battle. The rest is all about the confidence. When you are sure of the person you are inside, it can't help but come out! People have issues over EVERYTHING anymore, at the end of the day you must love yourself. Don't be afraid, ROCK ON girl. You make us all proud just by speaking up and being you!
First of all, I'm a wig wearer, and I like them. So that makes a difference. I'm a middle school teacher, so I have a pretty public profile. I pretty much tell everyone I have Alopecia and I wear wigs. I don't tell them that I'm waiting for it to grow back or that I'm trying new treatments. I just tell them that it's gone and it ain't never comin' back! That way, they don't offer suggestions for how to make it grow back. SImilarly, when they ask me what causes it, I just tell them in a matter-of-fact way that it's an autoimmune thing, not a disease, and leave it at that. Although no one really knows what causes it, that answer keeps people from trying to give me their insight as to what might cause it. Sometimes when people ask a lot of questions, I pull out my phone and show them photos of my bald patches (without my wig). Then, they get it, and it usually becomes a non-issue. After that, they tell me my wig looks great and "no one would ever know". I thank them and smile sweetly; they are just trying to be nice. Everyone knows I wear wigs, everyone knows I have Alopecia, and it's rarely a topic of conversation any more.
nicely said Stacey!
thanks for your responses. i don't inwardly dwell on my hair, but i also haven't been upfront about the fact that i wear a wig, so people continue to wonder if i do or not, and if so, why? i guess i don't feel like being annoyed further with questions and comments, and really feel like it's none of their business. But i guess being upfront (and sassy :) would, ironically,eventually make them all quiet about it.

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