So tomorrow I'm getting a visit from CPS. Apparently, the school called CPS on my wife and I for child neglect because my twelve year old daughter has Alopecia. She started losing her hair around January. She's completely hairless now. When we noticed the patches we took her to a dermatologist. He diagnosed her and then gave us some medicine which didn't work. I don't believe there is any form of medicine to treat this type of Alopecia. So the school figured they'd wait until she returned the next year after summer break and if she was still bald they'd contact CPS and file a complaint. We don't treat her any differently. We never ask her to wear her wig or hat when we go out. We try and make her environment as stress free as possible. She's so comfortable now she doesn't even wear a hat or wig at school. Unfortunately she's probably going to get upset when this government employee shows up tomorrow to start asking questions about her condition. So how should I deal with this? Do I allow this CPS employee into my home or just talk outside and how do I deal with the school? Any advice would be great. Thank you.
This is OUTRAGEOUS. Not that you have to, but when your daughter started losing her hair, did you send any info on Alopecia in to the school? I don't understand what the school could possibly felt was a big enough issue to call in CPS. Did the school tell you this was why they called CPS? I suggest you get a good lawyer. Also, use this as a teaching moment for those who don't know about Alopecia. Call the local media. Good luck to you and keep us posted!
It is unfortunate that the school didn't communicate their concerns with you to gain a deeper understanding. However, I would encourage you to take the opportunity to educate the CPS worker in a respectful way. They are damned if they do and damned if they don't. They have an obligation to follow up and investigate any notification they receive and I would be a bit concerned if they didn't consider your beautiful girl worthy of their time.
I am so very pleased to hear that she has found a place of comfort, which is a real credit to you as her parents.
Warm regards, Sue
This world has become just too PC - agree with Sarah McDermott, get a good lawyer and talk to your daughters doctor about it all too. All the best - my heart has gone out to you all.
All I can think is WOW! My mouth dropped when I read this. I definitely think I'd get the documentation from the doctor and proof that shows you adressed this medical condition quite a while ago before they show up to meet with you. I don't know if I'd allow them to speak with the child before I spoke with them and made it clear that there are certain expectations while interviewing her. My concern would be that she might feel scared if she realized the situation, so a simple quick interview so the worker can see for themselves that she is getting emotional support at home should be sufficient as well as the documentation from the doctor.
If this thing were to go any further, I'd definitely contact a lawyer, and if things go any further than they should the media as Sarah has suggested could be a great ally to gain community support. I'd also speak with the school, and possibly the school board once you've had time to think things through and process it. Best of wished to you, this would be my worst nightmare.
I agree 100%. You shouldn't have any problems with CPS, just let them in, tell them what's up, and that should be it.
I'd be pissed too though.