Can you tell her what to do with her hair? - Alopecia World2024-03-29T12:28:54Zhttps://alopeciaworld.com/forum/topics/can-you-tell-her-what-to-do?groupUrl=menwhodontmind&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLike I have said a number of…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2013-05-09:2022678:Comment:10390302013-05-09T22:05:06.690ZJimBhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/JimB
<p>Like I have said a number of times there are other things I look for in a woman ...... But, I would never bring up the subject of her hair, or in this case the lack of hair for what ever reason ..... I would let her bring it up and ask her if she was inquiring about what ..... Then, let her choose what direction we continue the discussion ..... </p>
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<p>Like I have said a number of times there are other things I look for in a woman ...... But, I would never bring up the subject of her hair, or in this case the lack of hair for what ever reason ..... I would let her bring it up and ask her if she was inquiring about what ..... Then, let her choose what direction we continue the discussion ..... </p>
<p></p> I would not request but sugge…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2013-05-09:2022678:Comment:10391252013-05-09T21:08:08.420ZWeston Dhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/WestonD
I would not request but suggest that a woman might shave her patches if I thought they looked bad.<br />
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I would never request or even suggest treatment or wig wearing. I would certainly support and share knowledge with a woman who wanted treatment or a wig.
I would not request but suggest that a woman might shave her patches if I thought they looked bad.<br />
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I would never request or even suggest treatment or wig wearing. I would certainly support and share knowledge with a woman who wanted treatment or a wig. First and most important, men…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2011-04-18:2022678:Comment:6112882011-04-18T23:58:36.233ZJimBhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/JimB
First and most important, men should support her, that even goes for women with no hair problems.<br />
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If you support her then she will be more excepting of her lack of hair and problems it presents.<br />
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As for the helping with her hairlessness ..... She should be the one to ask and men should be there to offer her assistance and support. To be seen with her no matter what she chooses to wear.<br />
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Opinions and preferences should be discussed together not seen as a problem for one and not the other.<br />
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First and most important, men should support her, that even goes for women with no hair problems.<br />
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If you support her then she will be more excepting of her lack of hair and problems it presents.<br />
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As for the helping with her hairlessness ..... She should be the one to ask and men should be there to offer her assistance and support. To be seen with her no matter what she chooses to wear.<br />
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Opinions and preferences should be discussed together not seen as a problem for one and not the other.<br />
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In this case a man should be a follower not a leader ..... Let her make the decisions then just be there for her.<br />
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A big hint to the men, if she ask you to shave your head ..... Ask her to shave your head, do not got to someone else.<br />
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JimB Hi MiNAH,
I just discovered t…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-06-15:2022678:Comment:4431152010-06-15T10:12:56.136ZChris P.https://alopeciaworld.com/profile/ChrisP
Hi MiNAH,<br />
I just discovered this discussion yesterday and like Craig I’m a bit shocked about the terrible experiences you have made and the lack of support especially from your family and - even more - from your husband.<br />
First and foremost it is you who should feel comfortable. Your family and friends should accept, support and encourage you and your decision.<br />
However, it’s great to read about your attitude and that you are doing it “your way” nonetheless.
Hi MiNAH,<br />
I just discovered this discussion yesterday and like Craig I’m a bit shocked about the terrible experiences you have made and the lack of support especially from your family and - even more - from your husband.<br />
First and foremost it is you who should feel comfortable. Your family and friends should accept, support and encourage you and your decision.<br />
However, it’s great to read about your attitude and that you are doing it “your way” nonetheless. Hello, it is my first post. I…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-02-09:2022678:Comment:4054682010-02-09T03:05:34.658ZDiego Martínezhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/DiegoMartinez
Hello, it is my first post. I believe as man that if I want that a woman notices in my though my hair loses also the men we must fix ourselves in women with alopecia, patches or that shave the head. I had a relation with a girl who was remaining bald, and between the two we decide that the head should shave for more comfort. She was verypretty and happy with her new look and was not taking wig. I also shave the head to give her support. To her parents not like this because they did not like…
Hello, it is my first post. I believe as man that if I want that a woman notices in my though my hair loses also the men we must fix ourselves in women with alopecia, patches or that shave the head. I had a relation with a girl who was remaining bald, and between the two we decide that the head should shave for more comfort. She was verypretty and happy with her new look and was not taking wig. I also shave the head to give her support. To her parents not like this because they did not like that they were looking at her daughter of strange form, and ultimately through the fault of her parents she end with me. She continues shaving the head but she takes wig.<br />
Still we are friends, but fodder that if his her parents had accepted her daughter as her like to be and not put into our lives, now even be couple.<br />
I Show alopecia world to her but she did not want to create her profile. She change through the fault of his her parents. Before it was important for her to be neither patch nor that saw her, even start to accepting it and she to like it, and now she never goes out of house without wig, at least she dares to go to the beach. Both boyfriends that she has had despues have broken with her on having discovered that she is bald.<br />
I find alopecia world casually looking for information for my current loss of hair, and I am glad very much to find this site.<br />
Now I want to know nice girls who accept her alopecia and that of the others without noticing to the appearances, believe that this is the best thing to be nice with one same.<br />
(sorry for my bad english, I´m spanish) My dad and step mom have majo…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-02-03:2022678:Comment:4037892010-02-03T13:38:02.908ZMiNAHhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Mina564
<b><i>My dad and step mom have major issues about my baldness.<br />
I walk bald and shave what "LITTLE MESS" I have left!</i></b><p style="text-align: left;"><b><i><img alt="" src="http://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2167353514?profile=original"></img></i></b></p>
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<b><i>I find that it is others who have the issue...not I.<br />
Their insecurity...not mine.<br />
I know that no matter how many years go by, my father always has been embarrassed with my hair loss.<br />
To friends, he is always excusing and apologizing for his lack of…</i></b>
<b><i>My dad and step mom have major issues about my baldness.<br />
I walk bald and shave what "LITTLE MESS" I have left!</i></b><p style="text-align: left;"><b><i><img src="http://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2167353514?profile=original" alt=""/></i></b></p>
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<b><i>I find that it is others who have the issue...not I.<br />
Their insecurity...not mine.<br />
I know that no matter how many years go by, my father always has been embarrassed with my hair loss.<br />
To friends, he is always excusing and apologizing for his lack of acceptance.<br />
My dad asked me, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO COVER UP WITH A WIG, OR GROW IT"<br />
ALSO HE SAID..."MAKE YOURSELF PRESENTABLE, AND ATTRACTIVE"<br />
Put on a Wig and Look like a real woman, I was told by my step mom.<br />
As I mentioned in another blog comment.<br />
My Estranged Husband, told me to grow my hair and not to talk about it.<br />
He was sick of the hair issue and says there is nothing wrong with my hair loss.<br />
Wear a comb over!<br />
Was fuming that I shaved my head and didn't mind me looking half balding, with my scull shining through on top.<br />
Wouldn't feel comfortable walking next to me!<br />
My brother told me that people must think I'm sick in the head for going without head covering, and when I shaved, he said..."THAT'S BETTER..YOU DON'T HAVE THAT UGLY COMB OVER"<br />
Then, when he saw me again recently...he was insulting that I shaved it again.<br />
Why aren't you growing it he asked?<br />
From people who have never seen me with hair, I get<br />
"YOU WOULDN'T LOOK GOOD WITH HAIR "<br />
Or you get..."YOU WOULDN'T SUIT HAIR"<br />
Or..."I CAN'T IMAGINE YOU WITH HAIR"<br />
Hahhhhhh. and I sigh, thinking, "OH, WHEN WILL THIS EVER END"<br />
Never!<br />
So I move on and "WEATHER THE STORM"<br />
I think that, the last laugh is on those who pass judgment!</i></b> John, I wholeheartedly agree:…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-07-26:2022678:Comment:3338442009-07-26T00:50:45.326Zrj, Co-founderhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/rj
John, I wholeheartedly agree: <a href="http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/tact" target="_blank">Tact</a> is the key. ;-)
John, I wholeheartedly agree: <a href="http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/tact" target="_blank">Tact</a> is the key. ;-) As opinions, done with respec…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-07-26:2022678:Comment:3338262009-07-26T00:25:46.664ZJohn Fordhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/JohnFord
As opinions, done with respect is fine; also if you're aware that the path your significant is taking is beatin'em up - you're <b>obliged</b> to speak to them of alternatives... not request, demand, insist or nag... make sure you articulate <i>exactly</i> where you're coming from and remind them <b><i>you'll always support the decision that is <b>theirs and theirs alone</b> to make...</i></b> and dammit, kiss'em <b>a lot</b> while you're at it - <i>can't hurt...</i><br />
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As opinions, done with respect is fine; also if you're aware that the path your significant is taking is beatin'em up - you're <b>obliged</b> to speak to them of alternatives... not request, demand, insist or nag... make sure you articulate <i>exactly</i> where you're coming from and remind them <b><i>you'll always support the decision that is <b>theirs and theirs alone</b> to make...</i></b> and dammit, kiss'em <b>a lot</b> while you're at it - <i>can't hurt...</i><br />
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</i> Sorry it took me a while to r…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-01-14:2022678:Comment:2041452009-01-14T15:04:53.255ZPhillip (Flip) Millerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/PhillipFlipMiller
Sorry it took me a while to respond to this, but I want to thank you for taking the time to compose such a thoughful, articulate response. This litlle "issue" of ours seems to be self-correcting, as time passes, in nature. The longer we are together, the more people that are important in our world, have gotten to know Carol.. I do not have a problem with Carols' Alopecia, it was always a matter of my wanting people to see her for the wonderful woman that she is, and not to associate her with…
Sorry it took me a while to respond to this, but I want to thank you for taking the time to compose such a thoughful, articulate response. This litlle "issue" of ours seems to be self-correcting, as time passes, in nature. The longer we are together, the more people that are important in our world, have gotten to know Carol.. I do not have a problem with Carols' Alopecia, it was always a matter of my wanting people to see her for the wonderful woman that she is, and not to associate her with any label or condition! My girlfriend Carol has asked…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2008-12-11:2022678:Comment:1811242008-12-11T18:00:59.157ZPhillip (Flip) Millerhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/PhillipFlipMiller
My girlfriend Carol has asked me to make my friemds and co-workers aware of her Alopecia Universalis so that "she doesn't have to." While I have no problem whatsoever in doing this with my family, friends and people that are close to me, I do not believe that anyone who has not met Carol needs to know. This has caused some minor friction at times, as she would prefer that I tell people. Any suggestions?
My girlfriend Carol has asked me to make my friemds and co-workers aware of her Alopecia Universalis so that "she doesn't have to." While I have no problem whatsoever in doing this with my family, friends and people that are close to me, I do not believe that anyone who has not met Carol needs to know. This has caused some minor friction at times, as she would prefer that I tell people. Any suggestions?