Are we just overreacting?

Are we just over reacting when we get upset with people staring at us??
So I was at work the other day and was telling about how tired I was about people staring at my bald head. And how I was ready to yell at them to stop staring or something along those lines. To which was replied "Someone that was in my situation should be more understanding and forgiving since seeing a bald woman was not common." OMG... does that sound reasonable?

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Permalink Reply by Lexi on May 30, 2011 at 4:16pm
I certainly am not racist or prejudice ...so don't take this wrong....but it is so aceptable for black women to go bald, and they look awesome! It is so aceptable for black women to wear "hair"..that is not their own, except that they paid for it...and again, look awesome. And so ironic that black women have so much to chose from and the costs are so much less than for us caucasion european hair types..when it comes to buying wigs, weaves, etc. Nobody blinks when a black woman is rocking a bald head, or rocking a full on wig. I feel maybe it is payback time for the white woman. Well, not most, I guess. Most are blessed with their own beautiful locks....none of us here, though.
Permalink Reply by JBean on May 30, 2011 at 4:50pm
I agree with you Lexi. Bald black women seem to be embraced more by society as well as the media. I am thinking of Alek Wek who is commonly seen in magazines, but we have rarely seen a white bald women embraced by media and society.

Kayla Martell, the Delaware contestant from Miss USA chose to wear a wig, and has also chosen not to wear a wig in competitions. I am glad she brought some awareness to the topic of alopecia but I was a little disappointed when she wore the wig on the actual night of the competition for Miss USA. It would have been a great night to show how white women can be bald and beautiful. Nonetheless, Martell garnered a lot of attention for not wearing a wig on a few occasions - when it shouldn't be that big of a deal.
Permalink Reply by Lexi on June 2, 2011 at 7:58pm
I think it is maybe such that Afro Americans seem to really embrace each other more like true brothers and sisters, and caucasion people don't do that. I think you know what I mean, hard to really put into this post...they really seem to stick together and accept all the things they do, white people don't have that same relationship with each other. Too bad for us.
Permalink Reply by BTB (John) on May 19, 2011 at 4:35pm
I think it is like cars we see them all the time and dont stare slow or even notice what type they are but put a car on the side of the in a crash scene people slow down they are drawn to look we cant stop ourselves its different and we look. Humans like conformity we see patterns is randomness our brain does not want to deal with differences, I was in China on business and went to a city where I saw no other Caucasian and I was stared at and it felt uncomfortable but I understood why. My partner has been bald over 20 years and I still sometimes look and I did especially when she came out and went swimming down our local beach bald I had never seen her in public bald and I stated. With me I was bald had a hair transplant and no-one not even my best friend of 30 years noticed its weird humans we are just weird but generally I dont think the staring is meant to be cruel. John
Permalink Reply by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on May 22, 2011 at 12:48am
I was thinking about this earlier and having read so many different opinions on the matter. Some people think we should be more forgiving when people stare or make comments about our lack of hair or our choices as to what we do about it. But the long and the short of it is it not still a prejudice? Where do we draw the line? I work with a close minded woman that one day made a rude comment about the future of Elton John's new baby. I was shocked and remarked back that his child has the same future as her new grandson. Being forgiving for allowing people to make comments about our alopecia, in my opinion, is no different then forgiving people for their prejudices to sexual orientation, race, colour and religion. A prejudice is a prejudice plain and simple. If we let others get away with staring and making rude comments about alopecia we are opening the door for people to have other prejudices. The line needs to be drawn.
Permalink Reply by David B327 on May 22, 2011 at 8:50am
I'm with you on this one Terri. There's no excuse for prejudice of any kind.
Permalink Reply by Tuesday on June 5, 2011 at 11:11pm
Interesting direction this discussion has taken. I think I agree with you, too, Terri - help people get over their misconceptions and prejudices about baldness, alopecia etc?

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