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Well the inevitable is happening...and dealing with dating
I knew that when I stopped all my medications(which weren't really working in the first place) that I would just continue to lose hair. I just wouldn't think that it would be happening so quickly. I have noticed that my hair is thinning out even more on top and now more on the sides too. Not that it really bothers me now because I knew it was going to happen and I was preparing for it.
But it does go to show that I made my big step of buzzing my hair and getting my wig at just the right time. Who knows what type of emotional/mental status I would be in right now if I was still dealing with my hair loss and trying to somehow cover it up with my thin hair.
I am so much happier now that I got my wig. It has increased my self esteem immensely and I openly tell people that it is a wig. 99% of the time people are fine with it and amazed that it is actually a wig. I did have one person kinda say "Oh..ok" and walked away from me like I was a freak, she doesn't matter to me anyways so screw her.
The only problem that I am having now is the whole dating situation. I have decided that I am going to be upfront with men and let them know that I have alopecia and that I wear wigs, because I am not going to invest my time and emotions in someone that isn't man enough to be able to accept someone who has alopecia. I am sorry, but screw you if you can't get over the hair thing. I mean, really, it is just hair..it doesn't make me who I am, it is just an accessory of me!!
I have been on a few dating sites and have initialized communication(emails) with some guys and have told them. I had a few say they were cool with it but then communication ceases, or no response or the slow drop off. I did have one guy be honest and tell me that he wasn't comfortable with it. I would rather find out ahead of time, ya know?
Someday, somewhere, somehow I will find a MAN who will love me for me and not be superficial like these BOYS are that I have been dealing with.
Ok, that's all for now..hope all is well with everyone! Sorry I haven't blogged in a while, I have been busy preparing for the Susan G. Komen 3Day for the cure! I am very involved in the event in Cleveland, OH and I am a crew captain this year in charge of a crew of about 25 people(there are over 300 crew members) who work the event and keep it running smoothly.
Talk to you all soon!
But it does go to show that I made my big step of buzzing my hair and getting my wig at just the right time. Who knows what type of emotional/mental status I would be in right now if I was still dealing with my hair loss and trying to somehow cover it up with my thin hair.
I am so much happier now that I got my wig. It has increased my self esteem immensely and I openly tell people that it is a wig. 99% of the time people are fine with it and amazed that it is actually a wig. I did have one person kinda say "Oh..ok" and walked away from me like I was a freak, she doesn't matter to me anyways so screw her.
The only problem that I am having now is the whole dating situation. I have decided that I am going to be upfront with men and let them know that I have alopecia and that I wear wigs, because I am not going to invest my time and emotions in someone that isn't man enough to be able to accept someone who has alopecia. I am sorry, but screw you if you can't get over the hair thing. I mean, really, it is just hair..it doesn't make me who I am, it is just an accessory of me!!
I have been on a few dating sites and have initialized communication(emails) with some guys and have told them. I had a few say they were cool with it but then communication ceases, or no response or the slow drop off. I did have one guy be honest and tell me that he wasn't comfortable with it. I would rather find out ahead of time, ya know?
Someday, somewhere, somehow I will find a MAN who will love me for me and not be superficial like these BOYS are that I have been dealing with.
Ok, that's all for now..hope all is well with everyone! Sorry I haven't blogged in a while, I have been busy preparing for the Susan G. Komen 3Day for the cure! I am very involved in the event in Cleveland, OH and I am a crew captain this year in charge of a crew of about 25 people(there are over 300 crew members) who work the event and keep it running smoothly.
Talk to you all soon!
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Comment by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on June 24, 2011 at 10:42am
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Those good guys are out there, we just need to be patient and yah keep putting ourselves out there. It's wonderful to hear how much happier you are with you wig. Good for you for finding that happy place and continue good luck.
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Comment by Julie G on June 24, 2011 at 11:17am
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Thanks Terri!
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Comment by Amber on June 24, 2011 at 12:22pm
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I'm glad that you're happy :D that's great!! Keep your chin up and keep looking for that wonderful man!! You'll find him if you keep at it :) Remember anyone who can't accept you the way you are and for who you are isn't worth your time.
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I agree Amber! The ones that matter don't mind and the ones that mind don't matter!
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Comment by Lee on June 24, 2011 at 9:14pm
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you will! Someone on here gave me a good word of advice. She said give it 3 dates before you tell a guy. I was meeting guys on dating sites and stuff, and I told them about my alopecia before they met me. Sometimes it was ok with them, but it's like that's all they knew..I was the bald girl. Once I started to wait a lil while,they got to know me first. I met my fiance through a friend, and I told him around the 3rd date, and we're still together ; ) There are good guys out there. The only one that had a problem with me being bald was a bald guy lol
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Comment by Sophia on June 25, 2011 at 2:56am
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I agree with Lee's comment. I would wait a few dates until I told them. When you tell them right away, it's like you tell them You ARE Alopecia, you know what I'm saying? When you're certainly not. It's just a part of you, just like being funny, sarcastic or whatever. If someone told you right away they are sarcastic then maybe you would never date that person either because you don't like sarcasm. You know? So yes, definitely wait a few dates, let them get to know YOU. & then when you feel like this could be going somewhere you should tell them. I told my husband on the second date actually & he was okay with it. He didn't say much when I told him, he just said "I don't care". Now 6 years later, we are still happily in love, married & have two beautiful boys together. You will find someone too that loves you for who you are.
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