Comment by Tallgirl on September 21, 2010 at 10:55pm

Leave an envelope marked "addresses and websites for male eyebrow tattoos and stencils" out where he will see it (filled with safe choices that you will agree to pay for), say nothing, and let him think about it on his own. You check out the places for tattoos and stencils first...check with JeffreySF and Cheryn Salazar on this site for contacts.

Also, leave out concert ads for concerts at colleges to get him exploring campuses. Winter is concert and indoor party time!

Comment by Pat Latina on September 22, 2010 at 5:47am

April, I think that Tallgirl is onto something. I know it's different for us women to get tatoo eyebrows but I had mine done and it was the best decision ever. I know that there are men here that have had it done, so explore a bit like Tallgirl said and do the envelope thing. I believe that if you just let him make the decision - he will and I'm sure he will be so much happier. Eyebrows as you know frame our faces without them we look a bit out of place. So I encourage you to do it. I'm praying for you and your son. And, YES God always has a plan and it's always way better than our own. ((HUG))

Comment by Galvin on September 22, 2010 at 10:28am

I had tattoos on my eyebrows about ten years ago. It really helped me face that mirror in the morning. I believe the shop was called, "Eye R Us" its in Mt. Pleasant, PA. just off the turnpike. They had a binder full of pictures of past customers.
Yea, you got a good lookin boy there, he doesn't need it, but if it gives him some confidence its worth a try.

Comment by Carol on September 23, 2010 at 9:48am

Although it is nice to hide behind wigs, hats and even fake eyebrows, it is most important to accept yourself as you are. By hiding the fact that we are different we are just avoiding the issue rather than dealing with it and then it turns into a bigger mess later. I've found that guys more specifically do not talk about their hair loss as much as females do but clearly it is bothering him. Perhaps it would be a good idea to either get someone to come in to speak at a school assembly about alopecia or have your son open up about it to his peers? The more we hide it, the more pain it causes us! Your son probably doesn't like to talk about it because he doesn't want people to feel sorry for him or he doesn't want to feel that he is worrying you but he will learn that talking about it is more helpful. God has his reasons for putting your son (and his family) through this, I know if I didn't go through my childhood with alopecia I'd have turned out a far worse person than I am now, I learned a lot. Try to keep his confidence boosted in other skilled or talented areas, encourage him, try to see if he's interested in being involved in more extracurricular activities outside of school (a youth group, guitar lessons...?). Being involved in outside activities will allow him to hang out with other kids with similar interests and help him realize that you don't need hair to have talent or accomplish great things. If the money is there, take him on a shopping spree, perhaps he just needs a new image. When I stopped wearing my wigs I had to change my fashion to suit my appearance. There are tons of options available depending on his personality and interests but don't sweep his alopecia under the rug, make him use his difference rather than try to fit in with everyone else. If Einstein was like every other kid we wouldn't have as many inventions as we do today, Beethoven's music wouldn't have tantalized our ears. Positivity, motivational speaking and encouragement are what he needs, not eyebrows (although I understand how nice it is to have them and am fully aware of their benefits)! Good luck, it's hard enough to figure teens out without other complications. ;)

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