(*ALSO SEE OUR IMPORTANT COMMENT ON PAGE 3 OF THIS BLOG DISCUSSION. THANKS.)

Cheryl and I would like to know how you feel about someone (an alopecian or non-alopecian) joining Alopecia World to look for the love of their life.

For the record, we do not have any problem with singles meeting and mingling in Alopecia World as long as they always bear in mind that this unique and dynamic social networking site is, first and foremost, a family-friendly support network.

In other words, while Alopecia World is not a dating site per se (like eHarmony.com, for example), it is still a beloved community in which eligible people are free to fall in love because this can also be a very uplifting experience and life-enhancing relationship.

But what do you think? Please leave your reply in the space below.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

richard jones (rj) and Cheryl Carvery
Co-founders, Alopecia World

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Tags: couples, dating, love, lover, lovers, relationship, relationships, romance

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Comment by Mari on August 20, 2008 at 10:23am
I think it would be just fine, widening the horizons of where you can find your "one" is a total plus
Comment by Hugh Mclellan on August 20, 2008 at 10:24am
I really think that It would be nice to have an Dating site for the AA members that are single looking for someone with similor issues and can understand. I feel really good about a dating site.
Comment by paula on August 20, 2008 at 10:25am
i think two things. one...it could be a great, safe, venue in which to meet others who understand/accept alopecia. i know that when i lost my hair, i had just started dating my now husband and i was filled with fear and embarassment...luckily he was accepting and supportive of me. i don't think that is always the case in the outside world.
on the other hand...how would you monitor the charachter of those seeking a relationship/date/friendship situation? my worries would be...that because there are so many whack jobs out in the world these days...that they may get on this site for the wrong reasons...viewing us as freaks..objects of their obsession with baldnes...who knows. there are all types out there.
i say...if you take the ultimate precautions to ensure a healthy, safe way for us to communicate that way...go for it! maybe you could gather information from match.com or those types of sites to see how they manage, filter, and protect their clients. great idea though! go for it! paula
Comment by Rebecca on August 20, 2008 at 10:27am
Personally, I do not feel that Alopecia World should make any specific enhancements to the website that includes a "dating" forum. If you connect with someone on the site by "chance" then that is fine, but it should not be promoted by the website.
Comment by Elizabeth on August 20, 2008 at 10:27am
I dont hae a problem with it at all. The only issue I can see is the fettish people out there.
Comment by Henrik on August 20, 2008 at 10:32am
I would say that it is okay. Since everyone is entitled to love, and if they can find their love here then why shouldnt they at least get a shot try. On the other hand it kinda feels weird. Since why would they join a community of alopecians to try to find their love since they love bald ppl. That would make it a fetisch, and frankly Im not sure if that is real love. Would they still love you if your hair grows out again?
But then again we are all intelligent individuals that can decide it for our selves. If a Alopecian want a non-Alopecian off the page for a valid reason, say for example that she/he feels harrased, I firmly believe that they should be kicked out of this fantastic community.

Just some thoughts / Henrik
Comment by Ray on August 20, 2008 at 10:40am
I don’t honestly think that our thoughts really matter as people meet and fall in love or lust just about everywhere on this planet. With the internet these days they don’t even need to meet to fall into whatever it is they fall into.

The main thing is that this site helps support people with what can be a serious psychological problem for them. As long as it is here and people support one another then that is fine. If some fall in love then that is great. Let’s just keep the site as it is though in the main as a support group and not let it deviate from its originals intent. Let the falling in love happen to those that simply fall while they are here without coming here specifically for that purpose.

Ray
Comment by tamgirl on August 20, 2008 at 11:13am
Im not sure if i understand this blog.
will there be changes in the setup of the site?
I come here to meet ppl with alopecia and what ever happends will happen.
Also want to inform and talk to non alopecia ppl who come on here, who are supporting a loved one or are just interested.
But i dont want to be approached by non alopecian ppl who looking for love on this site. for me that doesnt feel good. I think there are enough sites were u can find the love of your life by a dating-site setup.
i dont feel comfertable if this site will atrack lots of ppl who are looking for love and looking at my profile and discussings and talking out of the bottom of my heart.

I wonder why this question is put on here?
Is it because of ppl asked for it?

Thanks Tam
Comment by Mary on August 20, 2008 at 11:23am
Great question, Cheryl. My reply may be a little explicit for some, but I feel I need to share my recent experiences since putting my video on YouTube .

Although I knew beforehand that there are men who have what some people would call a sexual fetish about bald women and about women who shave, I was unprepared for the amount and level of this interest. I figured my video was mainly going to appeal to bald women, and I didn't think it was particularly provocative. However, a number of the people who marked it as a "favorite", and at least one who posted a comment, clearly have a sexual "thing" for bald/shaved women. I know this because out of curiosity about who was "favoriting" my video, I looked at their YouTube pages and at the other videos they've "favorited", and they are all about shaved and bald women, and sometimes nude women. (with titles like "hot shaved girl") The interest in the topic is clearly sexual.

The other telling factor is that on YouTube you can view statistics showing who is watching your video. Particularly in the first days after my video appeared, a very high percentage of the views from all countries were men - the video was clearly being rapidly shared among websites and users with this interest. In Europe, it was being viewed by 100% men; in the U.S., 80% men 20% women.

I just checked, and now, after it's been up for a couple of weeks, this has reversed in the U.S., but not in other countries. Right now it's being viewed by 30% men/70% women in the U.S., BUT 97% men/30% women in Germany, and 100% men in the U.K.! What does this tell us and what should we take from it?

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with a man being sexually attracted to bald women. Everyone is free to have their own preferences. I'm not an expert on this, but there seems to be a major element of S&M to this whole bald/shaved women fascination, judging by still photos and titles from videos I've seen on the pages of some men who favorited my video - things like a bald woman wearing a constricting rubber suit and having a rubber gag in her mouth. Sorry to get graphic here, but I think we need to be aware of this.

Maybe this all is old news to many of you, but it isn't something I anticipated. If I were still dating (I'm married), I would be VERY concerned about whether this was the reason a guy was interested in me.
Comment by Mary on August 20, 2008 at 11:24am
p.s. I meant to say "Great question Cheryl and Richard" - didn't mean to leave you out, rj.

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