Comment by Rose Marie' on August 10, 2011 at 4:00pm

Hi

I agree. Balance and sustainability are what most people need to maintain a life of health and happiness. Just always a struggle as life changes so often that you have to think on your feet to achieve the balance require. Not always easy at the beginning of any life changing crisis. I think as you get a little older and (possibly but not always lol) a little wiser, balance can be a little easier to achieve. (like Oprah and Maya Angelou say 'when you know better you do better') I like that saying because then you stop beating yourself up when you look back and think ...ah no, I didn't get that right.

Extremes are always difficult to balance and sustain. It's just finding your own balance and sustainability that can be the struggle.


Rosy

Comment by R0BB on August 10, 2011 at 8:42pm

Comment by Galena on August 10, 2011 at 10:32pm

A good message for all of us who are still working on balancing work and family. It's a daily challenge.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 10, 2011 at 11:19pm

I just know that we/I get to a point that we feel we are losing "control" of something we tend to go to the extremes. Even in though in some areas we may never go back to what we were. IE: weight, age, hair.... there are times when we have to find and accept a new "normal" and allow ourselves some flexibility.

Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on August 11, 2011 at 1:09pm

I guess that's why I never considered wearing wigs. I had too much to deal with when I lost all my hair and the thought of the wig then consuming my day was going to be too much for me to handle.

Comment by Tallgirl on August 11, 2011 at 5:26pm

Another part of balance is how we choose to see ourselves within whatever our value system is. Some put more emphasis on self as wife, mother, part of a culture, professional, role in faith community, based on income or artistic productivity/recognition, physical beauty, etc. Example: right now I am stressed out because I have lost my job, income and family. The past marriage and the hair actually do not bother me as much as these do. If I could be happy and fulfilled being a Medieval-type peasant and gardener, or town groit/counselor, then I suppose I would be ecstatic with my lot. But, media and culture has made me see my own worth as what role I SHOULD have now in the teaching profession, what lifestyle I SHOULD be living by my age, and how much positive communication I SHOULD be having with my children. I am judging myself as a failure these days after years of being a winner, and it hurts like L. So, I am hiding away. At least I can sort of use my counselor and teacher training on this site...but there is not balance in my life with no money for food, gas (thus, social life and church), outings, entertainment, supplies, yard care, art supplies, surgery. Oh, yeah...let's see if the phone, computer, electricity and water get to stay on all month. Loss of those, too, will be the real kicker!

Comment by Rose Marie' on August 11, 2011 at 5:36pm

Oh Tallgirl - things are so rough at the moment for you. I haven't really got any pearls of wisdom except to say I truly hope things improve for you (and I would guess many others around the world) soon.

Hugs

Rosy

Comment by Terri on August 13, 2011 at 10:51am

I agree on this completely and I found this a beautiful reminder
Thank you for that Cheryl

Comment by David B327 on September 23, 2011 at 5:49pm

Sounds like a pragmatic approach, though there's a lot to be said for the 'white knuckle' ride.

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