I have been married for over 12 years and have 2 sons. We are foster parents with a little girl that we are trying to adopt, but that's not set in stone yet. I have had AA since I was a toddler according to my mom. I have went the last 5 or 6 years with a full head of hair. Suddenly last October I started losing my hair and by Thanksgiving I was completely bald from, head hair to brows and eyelashes. I don't think I will ever go out without a wig. I live in a small town and people wouldn't understand. Oh Well! An update on our adoption....we are finalizing her adoption on January 30th! We are so excited! We are taking her and our sons to an indoor waterpark to celebrate and I guess that's the only part that really bothers me....not being able to have fun and swim with the kids without being the weird lady! I guess that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger....
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Hi Jacqueline! Congratulations on your adoption! I know it will be a very special holiday season for your little girl! My hubby and I are thinking of adopting a little girl as well. Just still a thought for right now. I have two sons and cant have anymore children...actually I could but strong recommendations by my MD not to! How are you? Are you wearing a wig in your photo? It looks beautiful if you are! Can you tell me where you get your wigs from? Desperately trying to find one that doesnt look fake. I hope to chat soon! Have a fab Thanksgiving! :)
The very recent loss of these 2 children must be very difficult to live. Often (always should I say!!), when I hear stories like yours, I wonder why people put soooo much emphasis on blood ….? Where is the best interest of the child??
To have to live this mourning, at the same time as the loss of your hair, must make your days sometimes quite difficult.
In my case, I became AU while waiting for my first daughter. My greatest fear was to loose the privilege to adopt because my health status had changed. Fortunately, nothing happened.
I hope so much that your second adoption project will work. You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.
My sons are not adopted, though I was young when I had them. They are 14 and 12. Then I had a tubal ligation at the age of 21. I thought about getting a reversal but doing foster care sort of fell in my lap. I haven't actually adopted anyone yet but we are REALLY hoping to adopt Sophia. The neg judgments are definitely a reality. In April 2004 we took on 2 little boys (8mo & 2yrs old), one with some emotional trouble and one who was diagnosed with FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome). The county that we work with terminated parental rights in 2006 and in early 2007 the bio mother received a judgment from the Ohio Supreme Court overturning that decision on a technicality. She still could not get her act together enough to get them back so the court has allowed her paramour(boyfriend) to obtain guardianship over them and we lost them on June 5th of this year.
He is not he father of either of the kids. The mom and boyfriend have allowed us to see them a few times since they left last month. It was during all of the court hearings and the mom trying to re enter their lives when my hair fell out completely. We had them for over 4 years. I keep hoping that when all of the stress of the situation subsides I might get my hair back. I'm not holding my breath though. I keep reading how when you lose all of it the chances of recovery are not good.
You must have had a really great adoption agency to adopt twice from the same place! I have a friend who adopted from Korea and then 2 kids at the same time from Vietnam. She didn't really like how the first adoption went. So she want to another agency.
I agree about the adoption thing. It seems no matter what I do I comes back to foster/adoption. Have a great 4th!
We adopted twice from China, first in April 2003 and then in March 2005.
My journey to adoption was an hard one.... After the infertility treatments, I had suffered a major depression... When I was ready to consider adoption, we've checked for adoption here (I lived in Montréal, in Canada) but the waiting time was too long (about 8 to 10 years for the regular adoption of an infant) and we were not ready to fostered a child so we turned ourselves to China.,,, I'm making a long story short here... you know how things can be long and complicated in the adoption word!
I feel so lucky to have my daugthers, I feel blessed! I wish I could adopt again but things have changed a lot in China.... Sometimes, I think about the possibility of fostering a child and then adopting that child (sounds like what your are doing...Our social services have program like this as well).. but I'm afraid of a negative adoption judgment... tell me, how do you present that possibility to your sons? were they adopted too?
PS: Did I say that I'm interested in everything that is related to adoption? I'm a member of at least 6 or 7 mailing group about adoption, from general discussion to more specialized to China or biological parents... when I registered here, I said to me: Ok, now, you'll do something about your alopecia.. and here I am, discussing adoption again... :-)
I've had au for about 30 years, and I won't go without a wig, either! It's perfectly okay to cover up. Do whatever makes you most comfortable.
Just wanted to stop by and say hello and see how you are doing!
Welcome to Alopecia Word. I've been AU for the last 6 years. Things have been hard but now, I'm slowly getting to accept it. I went to the NAAF conference in Louisville. It has changed my life!! Wish I did it earlier!
From your intro, I see that you are building your familly through adoption.... I'm an adoptive mom of 2 daugthers.. I sincerely hope you will be able to become the mother of this child!
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