Feedingsparrows

Female

Delmar, NY

United States

Profile Information:

Relationship Status:
Engaged
About Me:
I'm 27 years old and I've been losing hair for about four years, though this last year has brought an acceleration of shedding. The hair loss is worst at my crown and on top of my head, but it's also diffuse; my scalp is eerily visible from either side if I pony tail my hair. I feel like my femininity is being attacked, and I also feel a (perhaps juvenile) sense of injustice that the intense stress in my life led to this CTE/ AGA when it was punishing enough in itself. I'm anticipating my wedding, and feel so fortunate to know and be loved by my fiancé, but I am loathe to plan the details of the big day (such as hair and photography) because I cannot imagine feeling beautiful, and it's painful for me to explain that to people who inquire.

That said, I do truly attempt to be positive. I'm trying to educate myself and to ask for the support I need to overcome this emotional hurdle. I welcome the advice and joyful perspectives of those who have maintained their sense of beauty through this challenging ordeal.
Do you have alopecia?
Other type of alopecia
Are you age 18 or older?
Yes - I am 18 or older

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  • itzmejudy

    I know it is difficult and some days feeling positive is hard. Hopefully we can all help each other through this. You are lucky you have someone who loves you no matter what.

    Dec 18, 2014

  • PamFitros@boldlybaldwomen.com

    Hey there, Sparrows!

    I've always been a take-what-you-like-and-leave-the-rest kind of person, but just like every other woman I've had to get used to the alien in the mirror before I was able to befriend her and then adore her.

    You asked what the turning point was. It was self acceptance and escorting fear and shame to the front door of my self perception and booting them out. I am what I am, I am who I am. And I refuse to waste another moment of God's gift of life - a precious gift to be cherished - feeling unworthy.

    The whole story is in Boldly Bald Women - as well as the stories of 25 other women I met through Alopecia World (including Cheryl, co-founder of AW). Everyone comes through the grief to a place of acceptance in there own time and way. I am working so hard now to be putting together an e-program to help with that, as well as interviews with experts and eventual podcasting. It is women like you who keep me pushing forward.

    I get so frustrated at the current perception of bald women. The fact that I am not only comfortable in my own skin as a bald woman, but really love the freedom my bald head provides me makes it more important that I find ways for other women to see themselves as worthy and beautiful.

    The truth is, I'm 64 years young, and I'm overweight and have arthritis in both knees. The other truth is that I have been called 'beautiful' more times now than I ever was when I was younger and thinner and had hair. Why? I know it is because I have accepted and love myself just as I am. And I have learned how to use my baldness as a tool to make life better for others who must deal with the emotional and social impacts of female hair loss.

    How? One foot in front of the other, Sparrow, one foot in front of the other. Step by step. If I can do it, you can do it. If the other women in Boldly Bald Women have done it, you can do it too. You can reclaim your joy.

    Dec 27, 2014

  • Christy Ingram

    Thank you for the request. I am really sorry it took me so long to respond. I haven't been on here for quite awhile and signed in at the same time. I have Diffuse Alopecia. I hope you gain much help and acceptance from this site....It has been very helpful for me. Take Care!

    May 20, 2015