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Comment by Terri on April 19, 2012 at 9:44am

welcome Struth.
i totally understand your "chance of showers" feeling. Like the "other shoe is about to drop" LOL.
feel free to share you thoughts and stories. and have a pleasant day

Comment by Struth on April 19, 2012 at 6:43am

Hi there! Can I please join your band of baldy nutties?! :)

I think I've just realised I'm suffering from mild depression ... I can't confirm it's solely down to my AU but, despite trying to feel very 'sunshine' about it, things feel somewhat 'chance of a shower'. Do I count?

Comment by Terri on December 18, 2011 at 1:01pm

Im on facebook on a regular basis and yes there is alot of seemingly happy people that post on my feeds but there is a lot that dont. I guess it matters on who you "friend" on facebook as to what will show up on the feeds. There is alot of times for me, since I have close friends (nearby and those from here) that I ask questions to and vent about my day. Facebook can be therapeutic, it just depends how you use facebook. If you wish you can check out my group aswell as my page that i have there, just search Bald and Fabulous. You will find there is a community page aswell as a closed group by that name. All of which i run.

Comment by Julie Koch on December 18, 2011 at 12:08pm

I understand how your son feels, Connie. I use FB to interact with my hundreds of friends because I don't want to be seen right now. It's a way to keep in touch but I am also realizing that most people post what's great in their life and not their daily struggles as well. Sometimes it's easy to think that everyone else has their "perfect" little lives and that I (and others) are the only ones who are dealing with traumatic events. It all depends on how strong you are on the inside and if you can realize that life probably isn't all roses for them either. I'm glad that he has found online activities as a way to help him cope. I sometimes enjoy FB and talking with friends but I have to be careful not to go to that "woe is me" area of my thinking. It's also hard because the pictures that I have posted are of me with my long, thick, natural hair. Guys are constantly contacting me asking me out and saying how beautiful I am. How do you tell them that I don't look like that and that if that is what they are expecting to see, then they will be disappointed. It's a tough one, this Facebook... Hugs to you and Chris!

Comment by Connie - Chris' Mom on December 18, 2011 at 11:58am

I agree that FB is full of people trying to pretend everything is perfect. I watch and laugh most of the time. My son recently gave me a glimpse into how he had been dealing with things. He wrote a self-reflective essay for his English class and I learned that he found his escape online. He spent hour after hour playing online games and I now know it was because he could be who he wanted to be. He could pretend everything was the way he wanted it to be. He had "friends" from all over the world that would never see what he really looked like or know what he was going through. I don't know if this escaping reality is good from a mental health perspective, but it is how he found to cope.

Comment by Julie Koch on December 18, 2011 at 12:04am

Thank you for the advice LilyBell! That's actually the reason I stopped going on FB for several months. I looked at myself in the mirror tonight before showering and told myself, "they have problems too, maybe bigger than mine". And maybe they do but I agree that it is depressing when you are trying to cope. I have only been on it 1 week and already am overwhelmed and crying... Thank you for reminding me.

Comment by LilyBell*Murphy'sLawLuvsMe on December 17, 2011 at 11:45pm

Julie I got off of FB - because I found it depressing. Everyone in their perfect little world - all unicorns and rainbows. It really is not like that. That is their 'internet' life. If you have a few close friends, then just email them or limit your friends to just those few.

Comment by Julie Koch on December 17, 2011 at 11:22pm

It's amazing what mental illness does to a person and their body. I also am anorexic and bulimic and the hair loss and seb derm are getting to me bad. I decided to take a healthy step and get back to chatting with friends on Facebook. I hadn't been on FB since August and being back on it was exciting. I have only been on it a week and am already feeling defeated. I see everyone else and how happy they are with their families and then there's me... Alone, scared, underweight and fighting hair loss. I just don't know if I can hold out much longer. How much can I really take before another major breakdown? I ended up in the hospital in August for suicidal ideas.. Any advice?

Comment by Figarosmom on December 6, 2011 at 10:08am

Hi Terri
Thanks for talking about what your experience has been like. I am writing things down now too and I think it is helping as well. I noticed something I wrote down last week that I had been thinking about for weeks, I stopped thinking about it. It works. Not as simple with the hair issue, but having one less thing to worry about helps. Keep blogging. I would like to hear how you are doing. Happy days are nice to hear about. They give us hope.

Comment by Terri on December 5, 2011 at 1:33pm

Hi everyone..I too suffered many panic attacks and thoughts of suicide. Some of which I did act thru. Today Im thankful to still be here. It was alot of work, and I still couldnt tell you what my HA-HA moment was when things started to get better. Alot of it was finally accepting me and stop letting others dictate what I should be. As far as my alopecia went it was taking back control of what alopecia was causing me. For me it was shaving the last of it off, with that I stopped looking at the alopecia and started seeing me. The depression that always followed helped when I started writing things down. I hope that my sharing might help others, but I do know that we all have to find that course of healing that works best for them. Please check out some of my blogs http://www.alopeciaworld.com/profiles/blog/list?user=1ki8a6n99p0dq
Today Im happy and I work on waking up each morning with that feeling. But I know that not everyday is going to be like that. My demons are still there and I acknowledge them and try to work thru them.
Blessed be everyone

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